The Hilary Silver Podcast

If You’re The Fixer, Helper Problem-Solver Type, Please Listen

Are you the fixer? The one who always steps up, saves the day, and keeps everything running smoothly? Yeah, that might sound noble, but here’s the truth—you’re not helping. You’re enabling.
Hilary is here to break down why over-functioning is actually a trap—for you and everyone around you. You think you’re keeping things together, but what you’re really doing is creating dependence, burning yourself out, and blocking others from stepping up. And let’s be real—you kind of love being the one everyone relies on, don’t you? 👀
 
Episode Highlights:
Why “helping” is keeping everyone stuck (including you)
How over-functioning leads to exhaustion, resentment, and crappy relationships
The sneaky reason you can’t stop fixing everything
How to back off without guilt and let people handle their own mess
The magic of actually receiving for once (yes, you deserve it)
 
Episode Breakdown:
​​00:00 Are You Over-Functioning?
02:00 Five Reasons Over-Functioning is Bad
02:32 Reason 1: Training People to Rely on You
03:24 Reason 2: Robbing Others of Their Wins and Lessons
05:08 Reason 3: Getting Something Out of It
08:08 Reason 4: Hogging the Joy of Giving
09:53 Reason 5: Blocking the Flow of Reciprocity
12:22 The Hard Truth & Simple Fix
It’s time to drop the superhero cape and let people solve their own damn problems. Because the less you do, the more you actually get.
🎧 Listen now & start unburdening yourself!💫 Subscribe to Hilary’s YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1🔥 Grab my FREE training, This Changes Everything: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/👉 Follow Hilary on Instagram: @iamhilarysilver
💬 Which one is harder for you—saying “no” or asking for help? Spill in the comments!

How to Start Over and Succeed: 6 Powerful Lessons

Starting over? Again?! If the thought of making a major life change sends you spiraling, it’s time for a reality check—starting fresh isn’t scary, staying stuck is.
Hilary shares the six biggest lessons she’s learned from reinventing herself—multiple times. She’s built and walked away from thriving businesses, started fresh, failed fast, and bet on herself—again and again. And now? She’s giving you the real talk on what it actually takes to start over (and make sure it pays off).
 
Episode Highlights:
Get clear on what you actually want (spoiler: most people aren’t).
Why being half in, half out is a guaranteed way to stay stuck
Failure isn’t a thing. Not trying? That’s the real failure.
Why betting on yourself is the safest investment you’ll ever make
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Why Starting Over Feels So Hard
[03:52] The #1 Mistake People Make When Reinventing Themselves
[05:06] How to Fully Commit to Your Next Move
[07:04] The Power of Mindset
[09:55] Burnout, Fear & the Power of Letting Go
[12:13] Redefining Failure: What You’ve Been Getting Wrong
[14:08] Betting on Yourself is the Secret to Lasting Success
[16:14] Starting Over (Again) & Why It’s Worth It
[19:25] You Have Nothing to Lose
💥 Ready to bet on yourself? Hit play.
 
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🚀 What’s your biggest reinvention lesson? Drop it in the comments!

5 Daily Habits To Be My Best Self

Being your best self sounds great, but what does that actually mean? In this episode, Hilary calls out the vague, feel-good self-help fluff and lays out five daily habits that actually move the needle. If you’ve been winging personal growth and hoping for the best, it’s time to get intentional.
Hilary breaks down how to define your ideal self, bridge the gap between who you are now and who you want to be, and make small shifts that add up to massive transformation. Plus, she’s sharing the one magic question that will help you make better decisions, stay aligned, and step into your power every day.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why your ideal self isn’t a finish line—it’s a way of being
The power of sacred morning time (no chaos, no distractions—just you)
How movement, music, and self-check-ins shape your energy and mindset
The one magic question that will keep you aligned and making better choices
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Being Your Best Self
[05:04] Habit 1
[06:00] Habit 2
[08:08] Habit 3
[10:08] Habit 4
[11:55] Habit 5
[13:20] The Magic Question
 
🔥 Ready to embody your best self? Let’s make it happen.
🎧 Listen now & start the shift!
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💬 Comment below: What’s one habit that helps you show up as your best self?

Give Me 7 Minutes and I'll Erase Your Anxiety Forever

Everything you’ve been told about managing anxiety? It’s probably making it worse. In this episode, Hilary is tearing up the mainstream advice playbook—because counting backwards, meditating through a full-blown panic spiral, or just “getting more sleep” isn’t going to cut it.
Anxiety isn’t the real problem—it’s a symptom. A flashing red warning light. And until you fix what’s actually going on underneath, you’ll be stuck dealing with it forever. The good news? You are both the problem and the solution. Which means you don’t have to keep living with this.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why symptom-focused anxiety hacks don’t work (and what does)
The real root cause of anxiety that no one talks about
How self-betrayal, avoidance, and ignoring your gut are fueling your anxiety
The mindset shift that will actually eliminate anxiety for good
A simple but powerful way to turn anxiety into self-trust and inner peace
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Why Everything You’ve Heard About Anxiety Is Wrong
[04:48] The Real Cause of Anxiety (Hint: It’s Not What You Think)
[09:02] Game-Changing Questions to Calm Anxiety Instantly
[09:55] How to Build Unshakable Self-Trust & End Anxiety for Good
 
This isn’t about managing anxiety—it’s about eliminating it at the source. No fluff, no gimmicks, just the truth that no one else is telling you.
 
💫 Listen now & step into your power!
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💬 Drop a comment: What’s the worst piece of anxiety advice you’ve ever heard? Let’s laugh (and unlearn) together! 👇🔥

It Took Me 30+ Years to Realize What I’ll Tell You in 10 Minutes

You want love, success, confidence, the dream body—because obviously. But what if I told you that the way you’re going after it is exactly why it keeps slipping through your fingers? Yeah, it’s not the goal that’s the problem. It’s how you’re wired to chase it.
 
In this episode, Hilary drops the truth bomb you didn’t know you needed: The constant grind for external validation—whether it’s from a relationship, your bank account, or the number on the scale—only reinforces the idea that you’re not enough without it. And that? That’s keeping you stuck.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why your biggest desires might be rooted in old insecurities (Hint: Your childhood is probably involved.)
The exhausting cycle of proving your worth (and how to break it)
Why desperate energy pushes away exactly what you want
How shifting your mindset flips the script on love, success, and happiness
The magic of deciding you're already worthy—before you have the “proof”
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Introduction
[01:16] The Belief-Proof Paradox
[03:03] The Powerlessness of External Validation
[06:04] The Addiction to External Proof
[07:07] High Achievers and the Need for Approval
[09:03] The Inherent Nature of Self-Worth
[10:06] Choosing to Believe in Yourself
[11:19] Worthiness Precedes Achievement
[12:00] The Importance of Self-Relationship
[12:32] Conclusion
 
This isn’t about sitting back and manifesting your dream life with good vibes alone. It’s about rewiring your beliefs so that you stop blocking yourself from everything you’re meant to have.
 
🎧 Listen now & step into your power!
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💬 What’s one belief about success or self-worth that you’re ready to let go of? Drop it in the comments! 👇🔥

How Women Are More Powerful Over 50

They told us aging meant fading into the background—HA, not a chance. In this unapologetic episode, Hilary is flipping the script on what it really means to be a powerful woman over 50. After her viral episode “How I Turn Heads Over 50”, the internet had a lot to say—some women embraced the message, others questioned the need for attention, and plenty misunderstood the real point. But she’s here to set the record straight: this isn’t about validation, and it’s definitely NOT about seeking male attention.
 
Episode Highlights:
The straight-up LIES you were fed about aging, beauty, and self-worth
Why your value has NOTHING to do with male attention (seriously, let’s retire that nonsense)
The myth of the “invisible woman” and why YOU get to decide if you fade into the background
How to walk into any room like the queen you are—without seeking validation from anyone
The three mindset shifts every badass woman over 50 needs to make yesterday
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Introduction
[03:19] External Validation and Self-Worth
[04:01] Aging and Societal Perception
[05:57] Claiming Personal Power
[07:01] Becoming Rejection-Proof
[09:09] Turning Heads with Energy
Referenced Episode:“Forget Invisible Woman Syndrome - How I Turn Heads Over 50” : https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-hilary-silver-podcast/id1739660144?i=1000676193898
 
Hilary is dropping truth bombs, dismantling outdated beliefs, and handing you the permission slip to become the most magnetic, self-assured version of yourself—on your terms.
 
Ready to ditch the old narratives and claim your space? Listen in, take notes, and start showing up like the powerhouse you were born to be.
 
🎧 Listen now & step into your power!
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💬 What’s one outdated belief about aging you’re DONE with?

What I've Had Done to Look 10 Years Younger at 52

People are shocked when they find out Hilary is 52. They see the abs, the energy, and the glow, and immediately want to know the secret. Well, in this episode, she’s spilling it all—the workouts, the mindset, the aesthetics, and yes, the cosmetic procedures she’s done (and proud of). Because here’s the deal: taking care of yourself isn’t vain, it’s self-respect.
 
This is not about fighting aging—Hilary loves getting older. But embracing aging doesn’t mean just rolling over and accepting every wrinkle and change if it doesn’t feel good to you. It’s about choice. Confidence. Owning what makes you feel powerful. And not giving a damn about what anyone else thinks.
 
Episode Highlights:
 Why loving yourself and getting cosmetic work aren’t opposites
The truth about Botox, fillers, and why she stays very picky
The brutal reality of post-baby body changes—and the surgeries that changed everything
Why cruelty-free skincare is a must (no excuses)
The real key to looking and feeling amazing at any age—spoiler: it’s not just lasers and serums
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Introduction
[02:09] Loving Aging and Self-Confidence
[03:02] Pro Being Your Best, Not Anti-Aging
[05:09] Making Choices for Yourself
[06:02] Self-Love and Cosmetic Procedures
[07:39] Personal Transformation Journey
[08:00] Pregnancy and Body Changes
[12:02] Physical and Emotional Impact
[14:08] Non-Surgical Maintenance
[14:28] Botox and Fillers
[15:10] Invisalign and Dental Care
[16:14] Skincare and Animal Cruelty-Free Products
[17:17] Lasers and Microneedling
[17:39] The Real Secret to Looking and Feeling Your Best
[18:00] Conclusion
 
So whether you’re Botox-curious, all-natural, or somewhere in between—this episode is a reminder that it’s your face, your body, your rules. Do what makes you feel amazing and own it unapologetically.
 
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From Male Attention to Overcoming Loneliness: Ask Me Anything about Turning Heads, Leveling Up and Feeling Connection

Hilary is diving into your questions, and as always, she’s keeping it real. In this Q&A episode, she tackles some of the biggest struggles high-achieving women face—from owning your confidence to battling that nagging loneliness even when your life looks great on paper. If you’ve ever felt unseen, stuck, or just plain over it, this episode is your wake-up call.
 
Episode Highlights:
Confidence isn’t about approval, it’s about presence. When you feel valuable, you become magnetic—no validation required.
Overwhelmed by personal growth? Forget the mile-long to-do list. Master your thoughts first, and everything else will follow.
Loneliness isn’t always about being alone. It’s about whether you’re truly seen in your relationships. Here’s how to deepen the connections you already have.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Introduction and Listener Questions
[00:47] Turning Heads Over 50
[01:41] Addressing Male Attention Assumptions
[05:56] The Importance of Being Self-Centered
[07:09] Managing Your Mind and Thought Patterns
[08:24] Feeling Lonely Despite Having It All
[10:00] Situational vs. Existential Loneliness
[12:21] Authenticity and Deepening Connections
 
Ready for real transformation? Start reprogramming your thoughts with Hilary’s Daily Journal: https://hilarysilver.com/journal/ —a simple but powerful tool designed to shift your mindset and attract the life you actually want.
 
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Feeling Lost? 6 Practical Tools To Discover What You Really Want

So, you’ve hit a new phase in life—kids don’t need you as much, work feels like a never-ending rerun, and suddenly, you’re left with space. But instead of feeling free, you’re stuck wondering, "What the hell do I actually want?" Don’t worry, Hilary is here to drag you out of the “what now?” spiral and help you find your spark again.
 
In this episode, Hilary tackles that “I don’t even know what I want” dilemma with practical tools and a hefty dose of real talk. If you’ve been so busy playing all the roles—mom, career badass, caretaker—that you’ve forgotten who you are outside of them, this one’s for you.
 
Episode Highlights:
Jealousy isn’t a vibe killer; it’s a clue. Start paying attention to what makes you envious—it’s pointing you toward your desires.
You don’t have to overhaul your life in one go. Experiment, try stuff, and ditch what doesn’t fit (looking at you, Airstream).
Forget practicality for a second—what would you do if you had no limits?
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Finding What You Truly Want
[03:11] Exercise 1: Become a Master Observer of Yourself
[05:17] Exercise 2: Use Jealousy and Envy as Clues
[06:00] Exercise 3: The Magic Wand Question
[07:14] Exercise 4: Experiment Without Commitment
[08:27] Exercise 5: The Life Zone Exercise
[09:31] Exercise 6: Focus on Your Feelings
[10:55] Honoring Your Feelings in Daily Life
[12:10] Self-Satisfied Program and Conclusion
 
Ready to put yourself back at the top of your priority list? Check out Hilary’s Self-Satisfied Program: https://hilarysilver.com/shop/ for guided exercises (like the life zone!) and actionable steps to reclaim your time and energy.
 
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Neuroscience Meets Manifesting

Think manifesting is just for the hippie crowd? Think again. In this episode, Hillary  breaks down the science behind manifesting and shows you why it’s not magic—it’s mindset. From neuroscience to universal laws, Hillary reveals how to stop blocking your blessings and start becoming an unstoppable magnet for everything you want. No crystals or vision boards required (unless you’re into that).
 
Episode Highlights:
Why manifesting works (and why you’ve been doing it wrong).
The two universal laws that govern manifesting—and how to hack them.
How your thoughts, beliefs, and energy shape your reality.
The sneaky ways you’re subconsciously sabotaging your desires.
Five simple, practical steps to become a manifesting powerhouse.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Introduction
[01:35] Universal Laws of Manifestation
[02:07] The Law of Vibration
[06:00] The Law of Attraction
[08:28] Conscious and Subconscious Thoughts
[10:26] Neuroscience and Universal Laws
[15:01] Visualization Techniques
[15:56] The Daily Journal Tool
 
Ready to Manifest Like a Boss?
If you’re tired of wishing and ready to start receiving, grab The Daily Journal, Hillary’s signature tool that combines neuroscience and manifesting practices to rewire your brain for success.
 
Hit play, vibe high, and start creating the life you actually want. Let’s do this. 💫
 
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