The Hilary Silver Podcast

Why Strong Smart Women Accept Crumbs

They run companies, manage households, juggle a million responsibilities—and still find themselves accepting the bare minimum in love. Why?
In this Summer of Love kickoff, Hilary calls out the quiet epidemic of high-achieving women settling for less in their relationships. From doing all the emotional labor to accepting the bare minimum in return, Hilary spells out what “crumbs” really look like, and why so many women accept them without even realizing it.
The truth? Starving women eat crumbs. If you’ve spent a lifetime feeling emotionally underfed, even the smallest scrap of affection can feel like a meal. But that won’t get you the love you want, and it’s not your fault. The fix? Stop looking outward, and start filling yourself up from within.
If you’re ready to quit the chase and start receiving real love, this episode is your wake-up call.
 
Episode Highlights:
The subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs you're accepting crumbs
Why blaming men misses the point entirely
How emotional deprivation starts early—and shows up in dating
The difference between chasing love and attracting it
What it actually takes to become the woman who won’t settle
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Why Strong Women Settle for Crumbs in Love
[00:56] Signs You're Settling for Less in Relationships
[02:10] How It Feels When You Accept Less Than You Deserve
[03:01] The Real Problem Isn't Him—It's You
[04:07] How Early Experiences Shape Your Standards
[05:32] The Solution: Heal, Fill, and Stop Settling
[07:10] Learn How to Get What You Want
 
Stop chasing scraps and start receiving the whole damn cake. Hilary shows you how to go from starving to self-fed—and why you are the only one who can do it.
🔗 Ready to quit settling and attract real love? Grab Hilary’s free masterclass: https://hilarysilver.com/masterclass

This Book Changed How I Think & Live

Think you're doing all the work but still stuck? This episode might explain why.
Hilary breaks down the book that changed everything for her — and no, it wasn’t a psychology textbook, a trauma certification, or another high-ticket coaching program. It was an 85-page book from 1910: The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles.
It’s not about money. It’s about mastering your mind, and understanding how your thoughts are either creating what you want... or reinforcing what you don’t.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why therapy, mindset work, and affirmations didn’t create lasting change
What “thinking truth regardless of appearances” really means (and why it’s so hard)
How to stop being a passive observer of your life and start becoming the architect
The real reason action without belief keeps you stuck
Why making the most of yourself is not selfish — it’s your responsibility
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] The Science of Getting Rich: What You’ve Been Missing
[01:14] Hilary’s Journey With the Book That Changed Everything
[03:54] How Your Thoughts Become Your Life
[05:52] Why Belief Must Come Before Proof
[07:27] Embodying the Version of You Who Has It
[08:41] Why Personal Growth Is Non-Negotiable
[11:10] Your Mind Is Your Greatest Asset
[12:14] Learn More + Work With Hilary
 
This is the episode to press play on if you’ve been “doing the work” but not seeing the results.
🔗 Resources: – Apply for Ready for Love: https://readyforloveinc.com/program/
 – Watch the free masterclass: https://readyforloveinc.com/
 – You’ll also enjoy Listening To: How I Changed My Brain in 90 Days 
 – Read the book: The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles

Prosperity Codes: What High-Vibe Women Never Do

Ever wonder why some women seem to have a magnetic pull for love, success, and good fortune? It’s not luck, it’s energy. In this episode, Hilary Silver breaks down the prosperity codes high-vibe women live by… and the 7 low-vibe habits you need to drop like yesterday’s leftovers if you want to get everything you say you want.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why complaining without action drags you down
The ego trap of blame and excuses
What victim energy really sounds like—and how to rise from it
How to stop chasing approval and own your worth
The entitlement trap vs. empowered action
What happens when you keep avoiding hard conversations
The quiet control of unsolicited advice (and how to drop it)
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Introduction
[01:17] Importance of High Vibe Behaviors
[01:48] Prosperity Code #1: Don't Complain Without Action
[03:03] Prosperity Code #2: Avoid Blame, Excuses, and Defensiveness
[04:07] Prosperity Code #3: Don't Live in Victim Energy
[06:02] Prosperity Code #4: Don't Seek External Validation
[07:06] Prosperity Code #5: Avoid Entitlement
[09:14] Prosperity Code #6: Don't Avoid Conflict
[11:13] Prosperity Code #7: Don't Offer Unsolicited Advice
[13:40] Embrace High Vibe Behaviors Without Judgment
[14:01] Conclusion
If you recognize yourself in any of these behaviors, good. Awareness is the first step. Now let’s shift into the energy of your next-level self.
✨ Want a free energetic reset? Grab Hilary’s mini video training, This Changes Everything, and start rewiring your vibe to match the life you actually want: https://hilarysilver.com/subscribe/
3 High Vibe Habits That Upgraded My Life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TU-_3lZEqcg

Over 40 Glow Up: How to Turn Heads This Summer

You don’t need a new serum, a new diet, or a new man to glow up this summer—you just need you. In this episode, Hilary  is handing out the keys to radiance, and spoiler alert: they’re all about your energy, not your eye cream. Because glowing up has almost nothing to do with how you look and everything to do with how you feel.
From slowing down your pace to indulging in what actually lights you up, Hilary walks you through the internal shifts that make you magnetic. We’re talking presence over appearance. Being rather than doing. Feminine flow instead of frazzled hustle.
 
Episode Highlights:
Trade burnout for slow, sensual mornings
Choose desire over duty (yes, you can buy the sundress just because you want to)
Fill your calendar with you before it fills up with everyone else
Eat and drink like a woman who loves herself
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Rediscover Your Spark
[01:24] How to Have a Summer Glow Up
[01:35] Slow Down and Embrace Feminine Energy
[03:10] Let Yourself Receive and Indulge in Desire
[05:07] Prioritize Yourself and Fill Your Days with Intention
[07:07] Eat and Drink Like You Love Yourself
[08:49] Create a Powerful Morning Mindset Ritual
[11:06] Glow From Within: Presence Over Appearance
Because turning heads isn’t about getting attention—it’s about owning your presence so fully that people feel you walk in the room.
✨ Want to lock in the mindset that makes all this magic possible? Grab Hilary’s Daily Journal—it’s the exact method that’s helped thousands of women (herself included) rewire their brains and live from that grounded, glowing place every day: hilarysilver.com/journal

Regrets Of The Living (Make These Changes Now)

We talk a lot about the regrets people have when they're dying, but what about the regrets we carry every single day?
In this episode, Hilary Silver, former therapist and master coach of 25 years, shares the four most common regrets she hears in her work with high-functioning women. These are micro-regrets that quietly erode your confidence, peace, and sense of self.
From staying silent when you should’ve spoken up, to ignoring your intuition, to being too critical of your appearance, Hilary unpacks the everyday ways we abandon ourselves, and how to stop.
 
Episode Highlights:
What self-abandonment really looks like (and how it shows up)
Why burnout keeps you from showing up as your best self
How to stop dismissing your inner voice
The sneaky regret most women have about their bodies—and how to stop repeating the cycle
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Why We Regret What We Do (and Don’t Do)  
[01:47] Regret #1: Self-Abandonment in Relationships & Life  
[04:36] Regret #2: Not Being Your Best Self  
[06:33] Regret #3: Ignoring Your Intuition  
[07:46] Regret #4: Being Too Hard on Yourself  
[09:33] How to Learn from Regret Without Shame  
 
Regret can either weigh you down or wake you up. This episode is your reminder to choose differently, starting now.
✨ Want more? Sign up for Hilary’s free weekly newsletter, Self-Centered, where she shares mindset shifts and lifestyle favorites: https://hilarysilver.com/newsletter/

Stay Fit Over 40! (I Wish I Knew This Sooner)

Still following the fitness rules from your 30’s and wondering why they aren’t working anymore? Hilary is here to tell you: It’s time to break up with the punishing workouts, the rigid food rules, and the guilt-tripping voice in your head.
At 52, Hilary is in the best shape of her life. She’s leaner, stronger, and more energized than ever, and she’s doing it without tracking macros, counting calories, or wrecking her body with HIIT workouts. In this refreshingly real episode, Hilary breaks down the five shifts that helped her finally get the results she wanted, not just physically, but mentally and emotionally too.
From unlearning outdated fitness “rules” to adopting a mindset rooted in self-devotion (not self-discipline), she shares how tuning out the noise and tuning into her own body changed everything. You’ll hear about her exact lifestyle habits, how she makes working out something she actually enjoys, and why flexibility matters just as much as strength.
No shame, no extremes, no performative BS, just smart, doable shifts that honor where you are now.
 
Episode Highlights:
The real reason your old routines aren’t working anymore
Why pushing harder might be hurting more than helping
The mindset shift that changed Hilary’s entire approach to fitness
Her go-to workouts, food philosophy, and everyday habits
How to prioritize yourself unapologetically—at the gym and everywhere else
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Fitness Wake-Up Call
[01:44] Listening to Your Body
[03:10] From Punishment to Self-Devotion
[06:10] Defining Strength + Health on Your Terms
[07:12] Habits That Actually Support You
[10:11] Prioritizing Yourself
[11:14] Making Fitness Enjoyable
[15:26] Self-Devotion > Self-Discipline
 
Ready to break the rules and feel amazing in your body again? Let this episode be your permission slip.
Want to go deeper? Check out Hilary’s Self Devotion program to turn this mindset into your everyday way of being. [https://hilarysilver.com/self-devoted/]

Why Menopause Isn’t Making You Crazy

Hot flashes aren’t the problem—gaslighting is.
Hilary takes aim at the menopause conversation and asks the question no one else is asking: What if this isn’t your downfall, but your awakening?
In this episode, she breaks down the cultural scripts, conditioning, and quiet misogyny wrapped in every “crazy menopausal woman” meme, and replaces it with truth, clarity, and power.
This is not a hormonal crisis. This is your moment.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why blaming hormones keeps women stuck
The myth of the “crazy menopausal woman”
What really causes women to question their marriage at midlife
Why losing your cool isn’t the issue—losing yourself is
The gift of finally putting yourself first (and meaning it)
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Challenging the Menopause Narrative
[01:05] The Gaslighting of Women's Health
[02:10] Menopause and Divorce: What’s Really Going On
[05:05] Midlife Awakening vs. Hormonal Blame
[07:04] Cultural Conditioning and Losing Ourselves
[08:06] Why the “Crazy Menopausal Woman” Trope is So Dangerous
[11:11] Menopause Isn’t a Crisis—It’s a Revolution
[12:32] Reclaiming Your Power in Midlife
 
💥 Midlife isn’t the end. It’s the turning point. Ready to stop tolerating and start owning it? Hit play.
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🚀 What’s been your biggest midlife realization? Drop it in the comments!

How to Rewire Your Brain; A Neuroscience Hack To Think Better Thoughts

If you're tired of second-guessing yourself, overthinking everything, and dragging around a perfectionist inner critic, this episode is the wake-up call you didn’t know you needed.
Hilary Silver breaks down exactly how to rewire your brain—yes, literally—so you can stop the mental spiral and start thinking thoughts that actually serve you. The truth? That nagging voice in your head? You learned it. And now it’s time to unlearn it.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why 95% of your thinking is subconscious (and why it matters)
How your inner critic formed, and how to shut it down
The 3-step neuroscience-based process to create better thoughts
Why flimsy affirmations don’t work, but powerful declarations do
The role of repetition in changing your brain (hint: neuroplasticity is your superpower)
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] How To Rewire Your Brain To Think Thoughts That Serve You
[01:08] How the Subconscious Shapes Your Beliefs
[03:15] How to Stop Your Self-Sabotage
[04:18] Interrupting Negative Thought Patterns
[05:23] Replace Affirmations with Declarations
[06:27] Train Your Brain with Neuroplasticity
[07:53] Your Daily Journal Practice
[08:15] 3 Steps to Rewire Your Brain
Whether you’re battling self-doubt, perfectionism, or just sick of feeling like your own worst enemy, this is your permission slip to think better, feel better, and be better. No fluff. Just straight-up science-backed self-worth.
✨ Want the daily tool Hilary used to rewire her own brain? The Daily Journal is the how-to for everything she shares here: https://hilarysilver.com/journal/

If the World Feels Like Too Much Right Now, Listen to This

The world feels like a mess—politics, the economy, your dog's surprise barf during Zoom meetings. And while you can’t control any of it, you can control you. In this powerful episode, Hilary breaks down the five mindset shifts that keep you grounded, centered, and sane, no matter how wild life gets.
This isn’t about toxic positivity or pretending everything’s fine. It’s about taking radical responsibility for your thoughts, choices, and energy so you can stop spinning out and start leading your life with confidence and clarity.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why you're both the problem and the solution (yes, really)
How to stop being the last person you consider in your own damn life
The truth about identity (spoiler: it’s not what your high school yearbook said)
Why self-leadership isn’t selfish, it’s the whole point
How to create unshakable inner peace, no matter what the headlines scream
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Why the World Feels Unstable Right Now  
[01:14] Meet Hilary Silver   
[03:21] Truth #1: You’re the Problem *and* the Solution  
[06:00] Truth #2: Yes, the World *Does* Revolve Around You  
[07:14] Truth #3: Prioritize Yourself, Always  
[09:00] Truth #4: Identity Is a Daily Choice  
[11:19] Truth #5: The Outcome You Seek Is Internal  
[14:08] The Paradox of Letting Go
[15:01] Be the Constant in an Uncertain World
 
If you’ve ever said, “I just need things to settle down so I can breathe,” this episode is your wake-up call. You’re the calm. You’re the guarantee. You’re the damn center of your own universe.
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8 Micro Habits of Women Who Always Get What They Want

Ever wonder how some women just always get what they want?
It’s not luck, it’s not hustle, and it’s definitely not because they’re better than you. It’s because they’re moving through the world differently.
Hilary breaks down the 8 micro habits of women who seem to have it all: love, money, success, and opportunities. In this episode, she gives you the cheat codes you can adopt for yourself!  From keeping your word (especially to yourself) to protecting your energy like it’s your job, this is your no-BS guide to becoming magnetic to what you want.
We’re talking about unapologetic boundaries, unshakable self-trust, high-vibe thinking, and what it actually means to take radical responsibility for your life. And the final habit? It’s the secret sauce. The one most people miss—but once you get it, everything changes.
 
Episode Highlights:
Saying no without an apology
Keeping promises (especially the ones you make to yourself)
Radical responsibility (no more waiting to be saved)
Embodying abundance like it’s a lifestyle, not a mantra
And the real magic: acting like you already have it all
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Why Some Women Always Get What They Want
01:59 Habit 1: Protect Your Energy
05:34 Habit 2: Speak with Clear Boundaries
07:09 Habit 3: Own Your Worth
10:20 Habit 4: Focus on What You Do Want
13:19 Habit 5: Keep Promises to Yourself
15:38 Habit 6: Radical Self-Responsibility
19:08 Habit 7: Embody Abundance
24:34 Habit 8: Be Her Now
29:09 Practicing Receiving What You Want
30:02 How to Start Getting What You Want Today
Ready to stop spinning in self-doubt and start showing up like the woman who already has what she wants? Then hit play.
🔗 Want to do the identity work Hilary mentions? Check out her Daily Journal: https://hilarysilver.com/journal/
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