The Hilary Silver Podcast

Life on Your Own Terms

Episode 30: Life on Your Own Terms
 
Being self-centered isn’t selfish. It’s the ultimate power move! It’s time to put yourself first in a way that’s empowering, not egotistical. In this episode, Hilary redefines what it means to be self-centered and why it’s the key to living life on your own terms. At 52, she’s thriving in her health, relationships, business—literally every area of her life—and she’s here to show you how you can do it too.
 
Episode Highlights:
Forget the lie that “the world doesn’t revolve around you.” Hilary explains why embracing your role as the center of your world changes everything.
Self-prioritization is survival. Hilary talks about how putting yourself first creates the safety and stability to truly thrive.
Own your stuff! Hilary challenges listeners to take radical responsibility for their lives because when you’re the problem, you’re also the solution.
Enough with the self-sacrifice. Hilary debunks the myth that putting others first makes you “virtuous” and reveals why boundaries and self-respect are non-negotiable.
Success is about how you feel showing up as your most authentic self.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Redefining “Self-Centered”  
[00:41] The Five Core Concepts Overview  
[01:47] Prioritizing Your Relationship with Yourself  
[02:08] Authenticity and Living in Alignment  
[02:41] Core Concept 1: You Are the Center of Your Universe  
[03:45] Core Concept 2: You Come First and You Go First  
[05:20] Core Concept 3: You Are Both the Problem and the Solution  
[07:17] Core Concept 4: It’s Not Noble to Be Selfless  
[09:56] Core Concept 5: The Outcome Is Internal  
[12:04] Final Thoughts
 
Don’t wait—hit play, and start living unapologetically self-centered today!
 
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Screw Invisible Woman Syndrome. How To Turn Heads Over 50

Episode 29: Don’t Be Invisible Over 50
 
Ladies, forget “fading” with age. Hilary Silver is here to bust that myth wide open and show you how aging can crank up your confidence and magnetism. In this episode, she shuts down “Invisible Woman Syndrome”—a tired idea that women lose their spark over time. At 52, Hilary is thriving! She’s strutting into every room with a presence that demands attention, not for validation, but because she knows exactly who she is.
 
Episode Highlights:
Confidence isn’t about them. It’s all about you! Forget the validation and focus on what you bring to the table. It’s confidence that sticks.
Beauty beyond skin deep, always. True allure? It’s all about knowing your worth from the inside out and embracing every quirk and flaw unapologetically.
Forget the outdated belief that life’s peak is behind you. Hilary’s here to tell you that 50+ is when the fun actually begins—wisdom, realness, and all! Age isn’t a limit; it’s leverage!
Taking care of yourself is self-respect. Hilary shares why treating yourself right isn’t optional if you want to radiate confidence. Prioritize self-care because it’s a reflection of how much you value yourself.
To truly turn heads, you have to be fully there. Hilary breaks down how presence is more than just posture—it’s the energy you bring and the intention behind it.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Busting the "Invisible Woman" Myth
[01:25] Redefining Confidence and Aging
[02:28] Turning Heads Starts with Self-Perception
[04:14] Owning Your Worth
[05:50] Authenticity is Your Best Accessory
[06:43] Why Self-Care is Self-Respect
[08:30] Making Your Presence Known
[10:07] Final Thoughts on Confidence at Every Age
 
Start living unapologetically to turn heads wherever you go!
 
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6 Reasons It's Hard To Change And How To Get Unstuck

Episode 28: 6 Reasons Why You’re Stuck
 
If you’ve mastered the “know better” game but somehow can’t crack the code to “do better“, this episode is for you! Hilary digs into the hidden mental blocks that keep you looping back to old habits. Tired of self-help that doesn’t stick?  Get ready to uncover the six secret saboteurs standing between you and real, lasting change.
 
Episode Highlights:
Hilary breaks down three levels of self-awareness that expose why we keep circling back to old patterns.
Blaming external forces? Check. Realizing you’re the common thread? Check. Knowing what to change but still stuck? Triple check.
Hilary dives into six reasons why you’re not seeing results—whether it’s not really wanting change, focusing on behavior instead of mindset, leaning on the wrong support, using the wrong methods, finding comfort in the struggle, or holding on to your past identity.
Hilary’s challenge: Ask yourself the tough questions about what you’re gaining from staying stuck and whether you’re ready to tell a new story.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] What Makes Change So Hard? 
[00:21] Three Levels of Awareness: Where Do You Stand? 
[02:27] The Six Sticking Points to Real Change
[11:15]  Letting Go of the Old Stories
 
Ditch the excuses, and start rewriting your story today. 
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Uplevel in 2025

Episode 27: Uplevel in 2025
 
Ready to stop messing around and finally start making big moves in your life? In this episode, Hilary breaks down five power plays that are going to help you get exactly what you want—faster. She’s pulling back the curtain on the mindsets and strategies that have taken her from stuck to unstoppable. Hilary’s got the blueprint to get you where you want to go and in this episode she delivers with no fluff, just real results.
Episode Highlights:
Get clear or get stuck. If you don’t know what you want, how are you going to get it? Hilary explains why clarity is non-negotiable when it comes to manifesting your dreams. Remember, vagueness is the enemy of progress.
Commit to growth or stay stagnant. Growth happens outside your comfort zone—period. Hilary shares a gutsy story about a client who overcame the fear of raising her prices and saw massive success. Get ready to feel inspired to stretch yourself.
Upgrade your identity! If you want to level up, then you’ve got to become the kind of person who lives at that next level. Hilary breaks down why shifting your identity is the secret sauce to success.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Leveling up in 2025
[01:07] How to Compress Time and Achieve Goals Faster
[02:21] Personal Story: Big Risks, Big Wins
[02:55] Step 1: Get Clear on What You Want
[03:26] Step 2: Commit to Growth, No Matter What
[04:09] Overcome Fear, Invest in Yourself
[05:24] Step 3: Transform Your Identity
[06:06] Step 4: Find a Growth-Oriented Community
[07:10] Step 5: Get Yourself a Mentor
[08:54] Recap and What’s Coming Next
 
Takeaways:
Your circle matters. No more lone wolf mentality. Surround yourself with people who are going places, because the right community will help you hit your goals faster. Hilary talks about how to find your people.
Get a mentor, skip the struggle! Stop guessing and start growing. Hilary is all about mentorship and why investing in someone who’s been where you want to go is the fastest way to get there.
 
Hilary is about to bring you next-level transformation, and if you're ready to stop talking about it and actually build the life of your dreams—whether it's crushing it in your business, getting the body you want, or having the relationships you deserve—you need to get in on this. Hilary’s live programs and workshops kick off in January, and they’re designed to take you deep into the self-centered way of being that creates real, lasting change. She’s not just talking about it, she’s living proof of it—and she’s teaching it live.
Want in? Head to www.hilarysilver.com/waitlist to be the first to know all the details. Get on the waitlist now for early access and lock in your spot to learn directly from Hilary. If you’re serious about leveling up in all areas of your life, don’t wait—this is where the shift happens.

Hard Work Won’t Make You Rich

Episode 26: Hard Work Won’t Make You Rich
 
Think working yourself to the bone is the only way to get rich? Hilary flips that tired narrative on its head. Forget grinding yourself into the ground! Hilary built a $12 million business and hit millionaire status by 47, not by hustling harder, but by shifting her mindset. She’s here to tell you that wealth isn’t all about effort but also about energy. And in this episode, she’s sharing the three principles that took her from endless hustle to serious wealth.
 
Episode Highlights:
Hilary recounts how years of backbreaking work got her nowhere—until she shifted from “doing more” to “being more.” She explains how changing who you are can transform your energy and can bring success straight to your doorstep.
You’ve heard “seeing is believing,” but Hilary’s here to tell you it’s the other way around. You’ve got to believe in your success first. Hilary introduces a daily journaling habit that rewires your brain and promises to shake things up in just 90 days.
Whether it’s the universe, God, or some cosmic force, it’s always eavesdropping on your thoughts. If you’re doubting yourself, guess what? The universe knows. Hilary explains how to get your mindset in sync with your goals, so the universe knows you’re ready for that millionaire status.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Hard Work Won’t Make You Rich  
[01:22] Success Principle #1: Being Over Doing  
[02:04] The Struggle: Four Years of Hustling Without Results  
[02:57] The Epiphany: How Shifting Your State Leads to Success  
[04:01] Practical Application: Becoming the Future You  
[05:25] Success Principle #2: The Belief Paradox  
[06:08] Flipping the Script: Why You Have to Believe First  
[07:12] Daily Journal Method: Rewriting Your Mental Script  
[08:15] Success Principle #3: Universal Connection  
[09:19] Mixed Messages: What Are You Really Telling the Universe?  
[11:05] Self-Reflection: Time to Assess Your Beliefs  
[11:46] Break Free from the Grind and Align with Success  
 
Listener Takeaways:
Shift your energy. Spoiler alert—burnout won’t get you there. Learn how focusing on your emotional state can work wonders in aligning you with your biggest goals.
Believe before you achieve. Get on board with Hilary’s journaling method and start believing in your potential today. You’ll see results faster than you think!
Talk to the universe because your thoughts send out powerful vibes. Time to clean up those mixed signals and start manifesting success like the millionaire you’re about to become.
 
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Life Advice That Actually Sucks

Episode 25: Life Advice That Actually Sucks
 
Social media’s got advice flying at you from every angle—some of it sounds like a hug, but a lot of it just keeps you stuck. Hilary serves up the truth about why taking radical responsibility is the only way to break free and grow. With her no-nonsense approach, Hilary dives into the harmful narratives that TikTok, Instagram, and influencers everywhere are selling—and why they’re keeping you trapped in toxic cycles instead of helping you level up.
 
Episode Highlights:
Hilary isn’t afraid to call out the ‘poor me’ posts that paint overwhelmed moms as victims. She argues that staying in this mindset is harmful and urges mothers to reclaim their power by owning their choices and emotions.
Tired of hearing that the workplace needs to change while you do nothing? Hilary is too. She lays out why real empowerment means knowing your worth, setting boundaries, and taking control—no waiting around for systemic changes needed.
Sick of every toxic relationship getting blamed on the narcissist? Hilary flips the script, saying personal growth is about looking in the mirror, not pointing fingers. It’s about breaking the cycle by owning your role in these dynamics.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Why Social Media is Full of Bad Advice
[02:00] The Pitfall of ‘Dramatic Mom’ Content
[05:01] Why Victim Mentality is Toxic for Moms
[08:01] Owning Your Power in the Workplace
[09:14] The Myth of ‘It’s Not You, It’s Society’
[09:36] Narcissists and the Need for Self-Reflection
[12:04] Healing Beyond Narcissistic Abuse
[13:20] How Radical Responsibility Changes Everything
 
Key Takeaways:
Don’t get sucked in by social media life hacks. They may feel validating, but that doesn’t mean they’re helping. Learn to spot advice that keeps you stuck.
Radical responsibility is the real game-changer. Taking ownership of your actions, emotions, and life choices is how you’ll grow and thrive.
Stop waiting for the world to change. Whether it’s motherhood, your job, or your relationships, your power lies in what you do, not in what you’re waiting for others to do.
 
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9 Things WINNERS Don’t Do

Episode 24: 9 Things WINNERS Don’t Do
 
What makes high achievers stand out? Hilary Silver is here to break down 9 things winners don’t do—trust us, it’s not what you think. Ready to up your game in life, love, or business? This episode is your VIP ticket!
 
Episode Highlights:
Winners don’t sit around complaining. They handle it, find solutions, and move on. 
Blame games are for losers. Winners own their stuff and get to work fixing the problem, not shifting the blame.
Making excuses? Not a chance. Winners know excuses get you nowhere—own up, learn, and do better next time.
Life’s not happening to you—it’s happening because of you. Winners take the reins and steer their own ship.
Who cares if people don’t validate you? Winners know they’re already enough, no outside approval required.
Entitlement? Please. Winners create their own opportunities by showing up, grinding hard, and staying focused.
Winners aren’t worried about someone else’s success; they’re too busy creating their own and cheering on others.
People-pleasing? Not today. Winners know who they are, stay true to themselves, and don’t bend to fit someone else’s mold.
Fear is natural, but winners choose faith. They push through uncertainty, trust the process, and keep growing.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] The Unwritten Rules of Winners
[01:08] Complaining? Not Here
[01:47] Blame is a Loser’s Game
[02:20] Excuses Don’t Fly
[03:29] Victim Mentality? No Thanks
[04:27] Validation is Overrated
[05:39] Nobody Owes You Anything
[06:22] Celebrate, Don’t Hate
[07:10] Stay Authentic or Bust
[07:51] Faith Over Fear, Always
 
Listener Takeaways:
Take a hard look at these 9 traits—are you embodying them, or falling into the trap of what winners don’t do?
Discover how tweaking your mindset can kick those bad habits to the curb—like making excuses or waiting for validation.
Get fired up to face fear head-on, trust the process, and step into your next level of success.
 
This episode is your wake-up call—because winners are made by what they don’t do. Tune in, take notes, and get ready to crush it in every part of your life!
 
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This Virtue May Make You RICH

Episode 23: This Virtue May Make You RICH
 
What if impatience wasn’t a flaw but your secret success weapon? Hilary Silver flips the script on the idea that patience is always a virtue. She shows how tapping into her impatience fueled her transition from local therapist to global coaching powerhouse. In this episode, Hilary reveals how urgency, action, and a fearless attitude have been the keys to her unstoppable success.
 
Episode Highlights:
Hilary doesn’t just embrace impatience—she owns it. Learn how her desire for fast results has helped her cut through the noise, skip the unnecessary waiting, and get straight to the good stuff in both life and business.
Forget endless prep. Hilary’s strategy is all about diving in and figuring things out along the way. Think paying to skip traffic, but for your entire career. She shares how this bold approach keeps her momentum strong and minimizes time spent feeling stuck.
Urgency is about moving past fear. Hilary talks about how her impatience has led to invaluable lessons, from real-world experience to building rock-solid self-trust.
It’s not all smooth sailing. Hilary warns against jumping too fast, explaining the fine line between acting on impatience and letting things unfold naturally.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Embracing Impatience: The Unexpected Game-Changer
[01:00] Why Goals Love a Little Urgency
[02:05] Fast Action, Big Results: Hilary’s Go-To Mindset
[04:01] Fear Who? How Impatience Conquers Doubt
[05:05] Progress Over Perfection: Learn as You Go
[07:13] How Impatience Builds Self-Trust
[09:30] The Dark Side: When Impatience Backfires 
 
Listener Takeaways:
Time to throw out what you’ve been told. Hilary shows how to reframe impatience as the fuel you need to make bold moves and avoid overthinking.
Why waiting around isn’t your best strategy and how embracing urgency can propel you to your goals quicker than playing it safe.
Learn how taking action builds confidence, grows your skills, and helps you trust your own decisions in real time.
 
If you’re tired of feeling stuck or spinning your wheels, this episode is for you. Hilary Silver proves that impatience can be your biggest asset—and she’s sharing exactly how to use it to crush your goals!
 
Want more incredible resources from Hilary? Click here to access all of her free paradigm-flipping tools: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 

The Sneaky Ways We Self Sabotage

Episode 22: The Sneaky Ways We Self Sabotage
 
Ambivalence might seem harmless, but it’s that sneaky little voice that keeps you stuck, second-guessing, and ultimately self-sabotaging your goals. In this episode, Hilary pulls no punches, diving into how those “meh” feelings are secretly holding you back from what you really want. She shares personal stories, client confessions, and straight-up truths about why we keep driving with one foot on the gas and the other on the brake.
 
Episode Highlights:
Ever feel like you want something, but not quite enough to actually go after it? Hilary breaks down the sneaky ways this inner conflict pops up—from dragging your feet on that dream job to half-heartedly pursuing a relationship—and how it leads to low-key self-sabotage.
Hilary keeps it real with a story from her high school days. She auditioned for the dance team, knowing deep down she didn’t actually care about making it. Sound familiar? This story drives home how we sometimes aim for things we don’t even want—just to say we tried.
Hilary calls out the real culprits: society’s pressures, fear of both failing and succeeding, and dodging responsibility. When we only give a half-effort, we get to blame everything but ourselves for not hitting our goals. 
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Self-Sabotage: How it Sneaks Up
[03:10] Real Talk: Client Example
[03:41] #1 External Expectations
[04:24] #2 Fear of Everything
[06:31] #3 Dodging Responsibility
[07:24] The Costs of Playing Small
[08:17] Living Intentionally
[08:49] Dealing with Fears Head-On
 
Listener Takeaways:
Time to ask yourself: are you living for you, or for what others expect? Get real, and get clear on what you actually want.
Whether you’re terrified of crashing and burning or secretly scared of being too successful, face those fears head-on. You can’t move forward if you’re stuck in the shadows.
Ambivalence keeps you in a constant stall-out. Hilary’s advice? Commit fully and own your choices, so you can finally move forward.
 
This episode is your wake-up call to ditch the inner tug-of-war and start showing up with intention and clarity. Ready to stop holding yourself back? Tune in and get the tools you need to start living with purpose.
 
Want more incredible resources from Hilary? Click here to access all of her free paradigm-flipping tools: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/

9 Habits to Look 10 Years Younger

EP21 - 9 Habits to Look 10 Years Younger 
 
It’s more than genetics—looking and feeling youthful is largely about the choices you make every day. As Hilary celebrates her 52nd birthday, she’s spilling her best-kept secrets to staying energized and radiant.
 
Episode Highlights:
Mindset Magic: Hilary’s dishing out four game-changing mindset habits that help her stay youthful—like focusing on solutions (not problems) and living a self-centered life that puts her needs first. 
Daily Rituals for Radiance: From her 85-15 lifestyle rule to early morning journaling and workouts, Hilary’s got her daily habits on lock. Oh, and she’s not eating after 7 PM—because staying organized and fit requires discipline (and no midnight snacks).
What She *Doesn’t* Do: No alcohol, no fast food, no sugar, no dairy, no sun damage. Hilary’s list of “no’s” might sound tough, but these choices are the reason she’s looking absolutely fabulous at 52. 
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] What’s Age Got to Do With It?  
[02:18] Youthful Mindset Habits: Positivity First, Always  
[08:06] Action-Packed Mornings: Wake Up & Work It  
[14:14] Don’t Just Dream It—Do It: Achieving Those Goals  
 
Listener Takeaways:
Want to look younger? Start by changing your attitude—positivity and prioritizing YOU are the ultimate glow-up secrets.
Hilary’s morning routine is her not-so-secret sauce—journaling, visualizations, and workouts. (And maybe a little self-love in there, too.)
Avoid the aging traps: sugar, alcohol, and too much sun. If you’re ready to live it up at any age, it’s time to cut these out.
 
Ready to stop blaming genetics and start embracing habits that actually work? Hit play to learn Hilary’s real-life, no-nonsense tips for staying vibrant at every age. Want a little more? Grab her 5-minute pre-meal ritual at https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ and keep leveling up!