The Hilary Silver Podcast

Mental Load: Feel More Joy & Drop The Invisible Weight

Episode 33: Mental Load: Feel More Joy & Drop The Invisible Weight
 
Ladies, it's time to ditch the Superwoman cape! Who says you have to be the holiday magic-maker while juggling life like a circus act? In this episode, Hilary Silver pulls back the curtain on the mental load—the invisible, never-ending to-do list that's got you running the household 24/7. And let's be real, the holidays just crank up the chaos. Hilary reveals the truth about why we end up stuck in this exhausting role and how to step back without the guilt trip. With her no-nonsense advice and a wink of tough love, she's here to help you share the load, kick perfectionism to the curb, and finally enjoy that spiked eggnog this season.
 
Episode Highlights:
Hilary dishes on how the planning, remembering, and constant "Wait, did I forget something?" is stealing your peace.
Enough is enough! It’s time to stop being the default manager of everything. Hilary will guide you on how to resign as household CEO without the drama or side-eye.
Hilary’s four-step freedom plan: from rallying the troops at a family meeting to letting others take over (even if it's not done your way), she's making shared responsibilities a reality.
Perfect is so last season! Hilary reveals why embracing "good enough" is the secret to a joyful, stress-free holiday season. Prioritize your own joy and accept that done is better than perfect.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Holiday Stress
[00:52] Meet Hilary Silver
[02:03] What is Mental Load?
[05:05] Step 1: Decision to Change
[06:08] Step 2: Internal Boundary
[07:02] Step 3: Communicating Change
[08:04] Step 4: Listing and Delegating Tasks
[12:29] Embracing Good Enough
[14:24] Prioritizing Your Own Joy
 
Ready to reclaim your holidays and actually enjoy them? It's time to spread the responsibilities—and the cheer. Just because you've been the go-to gal doesn't mean you have to keep carrying it all.
Snag Hilary’s free video training, This Changes Everything, at hilarysilver.com/subscribe and make this holiday season truly about YOU.

Awaken Your Feminine Energy for Beauty, Productivity, and Love

Episode 32: Awaken Your Feminine Energy for Beauty, Productivity, and Love
 
Ladies, let’s get real: juggling work, family, and everything in between is no small feat. But does it have to come at the expense of your well-being (and let’s face it, your glow)? In this episode, Hilary gets candid about why living in constant overdrive isn’t the flex we think it is, and how reconnecting with your feminine energy could just be the ultimate life hack! 
 
Episode Highlights:
The secret to looking, feeling, and doing better isn’t another productivity hack. It’s all about embracing your feminine energy to create balance, joy, and a life you actually love.
Why are women exhausted? Hilary talks about the hidden toll of always being in “go mode” and why it’s time to rethink how you show up in life.
Masculine vs. Feminine Energy 101: push vs. flow, doing vs. being—Hilary breaks it all down and explains why both energies have their place.
Hilary outlines six game-changing ways to reconnect with your feminine energy. She shares practical, relatable tips like slowing down, softening your approach, and learning to actually accept help (without the guilt trip).
How does energy affect your relationships? When you lean into your feminine energy, the people around you step up in ways that’ll surprise you.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] The Overwhelmed Modern Woman
[00:33] Why “Doing It All” Isn’t Sustainable
[01:55] How Feminine Energy Makes Life Easier
[03:45] Understanding Masculine and Feminine Traits
[05:20] The Emotional and Physical Costs of Burnout
[06:00] Hilary’s Journey to Reclaiming Her Feminine Energy
[07:15] Tip #1: Soften Your Approach to Life
[09:10] Tip #2: Slow Down and Savor the Process
[11:30] Tip #3: Get Real About Your Emotions
[13:50] Tip #4: Be Present in Your Body
[15:25] Tip #5: Build Others Up Without Tearing Yourself Down
[17:05] Tip #6: Learn to Receive Without Feeling Weak
[19:30] The Beautiful Balance of Masculine and Feminine Energy
 
Stop being the “do-it-all queen” and start thriving! Now, grab your favorite drink, hit play, and let Hilary show you how to make feminine energy your new superpower.
 
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Five Rules I Break for Fitness

Episode 31: Five Rules I Break for Fitness
 
Who says you have to follow the rules to get fit? Hilary Silver unapologetically shreds the fitness handbook and proves you don’t need rigid routines to look amazing at 52. Forget arm day, endless cardio, and those boring sit-ups! In this episode, Hilary shares the five fitness rules she proudly ignores (plus the one rule that she never breaks).
 
Episode Highlights:
Break the rules! Fitness isn’t one-size-fits-all. Hilary’s approach to fitness is proof you can break the rules and still get good results. Start trusting yourself to do what works for you.
Cardio? Only if she feels like it. Hilary skips the treadmill grind and only walks or runs when it feels good. Fun fact? Many of Hilary’s podcast episode topics come to her on these walks and runs when she’s moving her body!
Scheduled workouts? Hard pass! Forget those “arm days” and “leg days.” Hilary calls the shots when she hits the gym. She makes sure that she chooses moves that feel right for her body that day.
For abs that turn heads, Hilary swears by twisting core-focused movements that sculpt without the six-pack bulk. 
Heavy weights? Only sometimes. Lifting heavy isn’t a lifestyle for Hilary. She balances strength training with light weights and Tracy Anderson-inspired routines for a toned, feminine look.
Rest days are overrated. Moving every day doesn’t mean burnout; it means listening to your body and switching it up to keep things interesting. Learn how daily movement—on your terms—can keep your mind sharp, your body strong, and your soul happy.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Fitness Confusion
[00:42] Why Break the Fitness Rules?
[01:35] Blending Brain Science with the Laws of the Universe
[01:46] Breaking Rule #1: No Cardio Workouts
[03:01] Breaking Rule #2: No Scheduled Workouts
[03:43] Breaking Rule #3: No Sit-Ups
[04:26] Breaking Rule #4: No Heavy Weights Regularly
[06:10] Breaking Rule #5: No Rest Days
[08:05] Hilary’s Self-Centered Approach to Fitness and Life
 
Hilary’s self-centered philosophy is the foundation of her life; not just her fitness. If you want to unlock that mindset for yourself, grab her free mini video training, “This Changes Everything,” at hilarysilver.com/subscribe. 
 
Rewrite your own rules now—hit play and start putting yourself first!

Life on Your Own Terms

Episode 30: Life on Your Own Terms
 
Being self-centered isn’t selfish. It’s the ultimate power move! It’s time to put yourself first in a way that’s empowering, not egotistical. In this episode, Hilary redefines what it means to be self-centered and why it’s the key to living life on your own terms. At 52, she’s thriving in her health, relationships, business—literally every area of her life—and she’s here to show you how you can do it too.
 
Episode Highlights:
Forget the lie that “the world doesn’t revolve around you.” Hilary explains why embracing your role as the center of your world changes everything.
Self-prioritization is survival. Hilary talks about how putting yourself first creates the safety and stability to truly thrive.
Own your stuff! Hilary challenges listeners to take radical responsibility for their lives because when you’re the problem, you’re also the solution.
Enough with the self-sacrifice. Hilary debunks the myth that putting others first makes you “virtuous” and reveals why boundaries and self-respect are non-negotiable.
Success is about how you feel showing up as your most authentic self.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Redefining “Self-Centered”  
[00:41] The Five Core Concepts Overview  
[01:47] Prioritizing Your Relationship with Yourself  
[02:08] Authenticity and Living in Alignment  
[02:41] Core Concept 1: You Are the Center of Your Universe  
[03:45] Core Concept 2: You Come First and You Go First  
[05:20] Core Concept 3: You Are Both the Problem and the Solution  
[07:17] Core Concept 4: It’s Not Noble to Be Selfless  
[09:56] Core Concept 5: The Outcome Is Internal  
[12:04] Final Thoughts
 
Don’t wait—hit play, and start living unapologetically self-centered today!
 
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Screw Invisible Woman Syndrome. How To Turn Heads Over 50

Episode 29: Don’t Be Invisible Over 50
 
Ladies, forget “fading” with age. Hilary Silver is here to bust that myth wide open and show you how aging can crank up your confidence and magnetism. In this episode, she shuts down “Invisible Woman Syndrome”—a tired idea that women lose their spark over time. At 52, Hilary is thriving! She’s strutting into every room with a presence that demands attention, not for validation, but because she knows exactly who she is.
 
Episode Highlights:
Confidence isn’t about them. It’s all about you! Forget the validation and focus on what you bring to the table. It’s confidence that sticks.
Beauty beyond skin deep, always. True allure? It’s all about knowing your worth from the inside out and embracing every quirk and flaw unapologetically.
Forget the outdated belief that life’s peak is behind you. Hilary’s here to tell you that 50+ is when the fun actually begins—wisdom, realness, and all! Age isn’t a limit; it’s leverage!
Taking care of yourself is self-respect. Hilary shares why treating yourself right isn’t optional if you want to radiate confidence. Prioritize self-care because it’s a reflection of how much you value yourself.
To truly turn heads, you have to be fully there. Hilary breaks down how presence is more than just posture—it’s the energy you bring and the intention behind it.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Busting the "Invisible Woman" Myth
[01:25] Redefining Confidence and Aging
[02:28] Turning Heads Starts with Self-Perception
[04:14] Owning Your Worth
[05:50] Authenticity is Your Best Accessory
[06:43] Why Self-Care is Self-Respect
[08:30] Making Your Presence Known
[10:07] Final Thoughts on Confidence at Every Age
 
Start living unapologetically to turn heads wherever you go!
 
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6 Reasons It's Hard To Change And How To Get Unstuck

Episode 28: 6 Reasons Why You’re Stuck
 
If you’ve mastered the “know better” game but somehow can’t crack the code to “do better“, this episode is for you! Hilary digs into the hidden mental blocks that keep you looping back to old habits. Tired of self-help that doesn’t stick?  Get ready to uncover the six secret saboteurs standing between you and real, lasting change.
 
Episode Highlights:
Hilary breaks down three levels of self-awareness that expose why we keep circling back to old patterns.
Blaming external forces? Check. Realizing you’re the common thread? Check. Knowing what to change but still stuck? Triple check.
Hilary dives into six reasons why you’re not seeing results—whether it’s not really wanting change, focusing on behavior instead of mindset, leaning on the wrong support, using the wrong methods, finding comfort in the struggle, or holding on to your past identity.
Hilary’s challenge: Ask yourself the tough questions about what you’re gaining from staying stuck and whether you’re ready to tell a new story.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] What Makes Change So Hard? 
[00:21] Three Levels of Awareness: Where Do You Stand? 
[02:27] The Six Sticking Points to Real Change
[11:15]  Letting Go of the Old Stories
 
Ditch the excuses, and start rewriting your story today. 
Want more of Hilary’s game-changing tools? Grab her free, paradigm-flipping resources right here: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 

Uplevel in 2025

Episode 27: Uplevel in 2025
 
Ready to stop messing around and finally start making big moves in your life? In this episode, Hilary breaks down five power plays that are going to help you get exactly what you want—faster. She’s pulling back the curtain on the mindsets and strategies that have taken her from stuck to unstoppable. Hilary’s got the blueprint to get you where you want to go and in this episode she delivers with no fluff, just real results.
Episode Highlights:
Get clear or get stuck. If you don’t know what you want, how are you going to get it? Hilary explains why clarity is non-negotiable when it comes to manifesting your dreams. Remember, vagueness is the enemy of progress.
Commit to growth or stay stagnant. Growth happens outside your comfort zone—period. Hilary shares a gutsy story about a client who overcame the fear of raising her prices and saw massive success. Get ready to feel inspired to stretch yourself.
Upgrade your identity! If you want to level up, then you’ve got to become the kind of person who lives at that next level. Hilary breaks down why shifting your identity is the secret sauce to success.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Leveling up in 2025
[01:07] How to Compress Time and Achieve Goals Faster
[02:21] Personal Story: Big Risks, Big Wins
[02:55] Step 1: Get Clear on What You Want
[03:26] Step 2: Commit to Growth, No Matter What
[04:09] Overcome Fear, Invest in Yourself
[05:24] Step 3: Transform Your Identity
[06:06] Step 4: Find a Growth-Oriented Community
[07:10] Step 5: Get Yourself a Mentor
[08:54] Recap and What’s Coming Next
 
Takeaways:
Your circle matters. No more lone wolf mentality. Surround yourself with people who are going places, because the right community will help you hit your goals faster. Hilary talks about how to find your people.
Get a mentor, skip the struggle! Stop guessing and start growing. Hilary is all about mentorship and why investing in someone who’s been where you want to go is the fastest way to get there.
 
Hilary is about to bring you next-level transformation, and if you're ready to stop talking about it and actually build the life of your dreams—whether it's crushing it in your business, getting the body you want, or having the relationships you deserve—you need to get in on this. Hilary’s live programs and workshops kick off in January, and they’re designed to take you deep into the self-centered way of being that creates real, lasting change. She’s not just talking about it, she’s living proof of it—and she’s teaching it live.
Want in? Head to www.hilarysilver.com/waitlist to be the first to know all the details. Get on the waitlist now for early access and lock in your spot to learn directly from Hilary. If you’re serious about leveling up in all areas of your life, don’t wait—this is where the shift happens.

Hard Work Won’t Make You Rich

Episode 26: Hard Work Won’t Make You Rich
 
Think working yourself to the bone is the only way to get rich? Hilary flips that tired narrative on its head. Forget grinding yourself into the ground! Hilary built a $12 million business and hit millionaire status by 47, not by hustling harder, but by shifting her mindset. She’s here to tell you that wealth isn’t all about effort but also about energy. And in this episode, she’s sharing the three principles that took her from endless hustle to serious wealth.
 
Episode Highlights:
Hilary recounts how years of backbreaking work got her nowhere—until she shifted from “doing more” to “being more.” She explains how changing who you are can transform your energy and can bring success straight to your doorstep.
You’ve heard “seeing is believing,” but Hilary’s here to tell you it’s the other way around. You’ve got to believe in your success first. Hilary introduces a daily journaling habit that rewires your brain and promises to shake things up in just 90 days.
Whether it’s the universe, God, or some cosmic force, it’s always eavesdropping on your thoughts. If you’re doubting yourself, guess what? The universe knows. Hilary explains how to get your mindset in sync with your goals, so the universe knows you’re ready for that millionaire status.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Hard Work Won’t Make You Rich  
[01:22] Success Principle #1: Being Over Doing  
[02:04] The Struggle: Four Years of Hustling Without Results  
[02:57] The Epiphany: How Shifting Your State Leads to Success  
[04:01] Practical Application: Becoming the Future You  
[05:25] Success Principle #2: The Belief Paradox  
[06:08] Flipping the Script: Why You Have to Believe First  
[07:12] Daily Journal Method: Rewriting Your Mental Script  
[08:15] Success Principle #3: Universal Connection  
[09:19] Mixed Messages: What Are You Really Telling the Universe?  
[11:05] Self-Reflection: Time to Assess Your Beliefs  
[11:46] Break Free from the Grind and Align with Success  
 
Listener Takeaways:
Shift your energy. Spoiler alert—burnout won’t get you there. Learn how focusing on your emotional state can work wonders in aligning you with your biggest goals.
Believe before you achieve. Get on board with Hilary’s journaling method and start believing in your potential today. You’ll see results faster than you think!
Talk to the universe because your thoughts send out powerful vibes. Time to clean up those mixed signals and start manifesting success like the millionaire you’re about to become.
 
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Life Advice That Actually Sucks

Episode 25: Life Advice That Actually Sucks
 
Social media’s got advice flying at you from every angle—some of it sounds like a hug, but a lot of it just keeps you stuck. Hilary serves up the truth about why taking radical responsibility is the only way to break free and grow. With her no-nonsense approach, Hilary dives into the harmful narratives that TikTok, Instagram, and influencers everywhere are selling—and why they’re keeping you trapped in toxic cycles instead of helping you level up.
 
Episode Highlights:
Hilary isn’t afraid to call out the ‘poor me’ posts that paint overwhelmed moms as victims. She argues that staying in this mindset is harmful and urges mothers to reclaim their power by owning their choices and emotions.
Tired of hearing that the workplace needs to change while you do nothing? Hilary is too. She lays out why real empowerment means knowing your worth, setting boundaries, and taking control—no waiting around for systemic changes needed.
Sick of every toxic relationship getting blamed on the narcissist? Hilary flips the script, saying personal growth is about looking in the mirror, not pointing fingers. It’s about breaking the cycle by owning your role in these dynamics.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Why Social Media is Full of Bad Advice
[02:00] The Pitfall of ‘Dramatic Mom’ Content
[05:01] Why Victim Mentality is Toxic for Moms
[08:01] Owning Your Power in the Workplace
[09:14] The Myth of ‘It’s Not You, It’s Society’
[09:36] Narcissists and the Need for Self-Reflection
[12:04] Healing Beyond Narcissistic Abuse
[13:20] How Radical Responsibility Changes Everything
 
Key Takeaways:
Don’t get sucked in by social media life hacks. They may feel validating, but that doesn’t mean they’re helping. Learn to spot advice that keeps you stuck.
Radical responsibility is the real game-changer. Taking ownership of your actions, emotions, and life choices is how you’ll grow and thrive.
Stop waiting for the world to change. Whether it’s motherhood, your job, or your relationships, your power lies in what you do, not in what you’re waiting for others to do.
 
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9 Things WINNERS Don’t Do

Episode 24: 9 Things WINNERS Don’t Do
 
What makes high achievers stand out? Hilary Silver is here to break down 9 things winners don’t do—trust us, it’s not what you think. Ready to up your game in life, love, or business? This episode is your VIP ticket!
 
Episode Highlights:
Winners don’t sit around complaining. They handle it, find solutions, and move on. 
Blame games are for losers. Winners own their stuff and get to work fixing the problem, not shifting the blame.
Making excuses? Not a chance. Winners know excuses get you nowhere—own up, learn, and do better next time.
Life’s not happening to you—it’s happening because of you. Winners take the reins and steer their own ship.
Who cares if people don’t validate you? Winners know they’re already enough, no outside approval required.
Entitlement? Please. Winners create their own opportunities by showing up, grinding hard, and staying focused.
Winners aren’t worried about someone else’s success; they’re too busy creating their own and cheering on others.
People-pleasing? Not today. Winners know who they are, stay true to themselves, and don’t bend to fit someone else’s mold.
Fear is natural, but winners choose faith. They push through uncertainty, trust the process, and keep growing.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] The Unwritten Rules of Winners
[01:08] Complaining? Not Here
[01:47] Blame is a Loser’s Game
[02:20] Excuses Don’t Fly
[03:29] Victim Mentality? No Thanks
[04:27] Validation is Overrated
[05:39] Nobody Owes You Anything
[06:22] Celebrate, Don’t Hate
[07:10] Stay Authentic or Bust
[07:51] Faith Over Fear, Always
 
Listener Takeaways:
Take a hard look at these 9 traits—are you embodying them, or falling into the trap of what winners don’t do?
Discover how tweaking your mindset can kick those bad habits to the curb—like making excuses or waiting for validation.
Get fired up to face fear head-on, trust the process, and step into your next level of success.
 
This episode is your wake-up call—because winners are made by what they don’t do. Tune in, take notes, and get ready to crush it in every part of your life!
 
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