Ready For Love with Hilary Silver

#76: Anxious Or Avoidant? Why Attachment Theory Is Keeping You Single

Everyone’s suddenly an expert on attachment styles. Anxious, avoidant, disorganized—it’s all over your feed, and maybe even your therapist’s office. But here’s the truth: if you’re trying to use attachment theory to decode every date and relationship, it’s keeping you stuck.
In this episode, Hilary is  breaking down why obsessing over your (and his) attachment style is doing more harm than good, and what actually matters when you’re looking for real love.
If you’re a smart, self-aware woman who’s done the work but still isn’t seeing results in your love life, this might be why. Because knowing better doesn’t automatically mean doing better. And the answer isn’t more information—it’s radical self-trust, embodied confidence, and knowing how to assess how a relationship feels instead of overthinking why someone acts the way they do.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why therapy, books, and expert advice often lead to “knowing better but not doing better”
The trap of over-intellectualizing your love life
What to look for in a relationship that actually matters
How long-term love evolves, and why labels won’t help you grow it
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Why Attachment Styles Are Keeping You Single
02:21 Information Doesn’t Equal Transformation
04:46 The Problem with Overthinking and Intellectualizing Love
06:06 The Danger of Labeling Your Partner (or Yourself)
08:02 What a Healthy Relationship Actually Looks Like
09:16 Stop Fixating on Him, Focus on You
 
If you're ready to stop psychoanalyzing every text and start showing up as the woman who knows what she wants and how to get it—this episode is for you.
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#75: Where Are All The Good Men? (Why Some Women Find Them & You Don’t)

You’ve got the career, the confidence, the killer heels… so why are all the men you're meeting either emotionally unavailable, totally underwhelming, or gone after two dates?
Here’s the hard truth: It’s not about them. It’s about you.
Not because you’re broken or “too much”, but because there’s a disconnect between the woman you look like on the outside and the one you’re being on the inside. And good men? They can feel that.
 
Episode Highlights:
The subconscious beliefs sabotaging your love life (yep, even if you’re “putting yourself out there”)
Why men aren’t intimidated by your success, they’re turned off by your walls
The hidden ways your self-talk is killing your vibe
And what it really takes to attract a healthy, high-caliber man
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Why You’re Not Meeting Good Men
03:04 The Myth of the Secret Place Men Are Hiding
04:17 Reason #1: Limiting Beliefs Are Repelling Love
05:31 Reason #2: Fear of Intimacy and Vulnerability
08:01 Reason #3: Looking High-Value on the Outside, Not Inside
10:08 You Must Become the Woman Who Can Receive Love
11:44 Real-Life Stories: When Good Men Start Appearing
12:26 Stop Searching. Start Showing Up Differently
 
There’s no underground speakeasy of good men you haven’t been invited to. They’re all around, you just can’t see them until you become the woman who’s ready to meet them.
Door #3 is waiting. But first, you’ve got to stop playing defense and start playing real.
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#74: Why You Attract Emotionally Unavailable Men

Ever feel like you're on date #200, with the same guy?
In this episode, Hilary breaks down emotional unavailability for what it actually is: a lack of real intimacy. If you're attracting men who can't go deep, there's a reason. And it may have more to do with you than you think.
For high-functioning women especially, this is a sneaky blind spot. You might be warm, flirty, and fun—but still totally guarded. You might talk about your emotions, but not feel them in real time. And that performative intimacy? It’s what keeps real connection out of reach.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why emotional unavailability isn’t just a “man” problem
The two biggest reasons people avoid true intimacy
The subtle difference between being expressive and actually being emotionally available
How to finally break the pattern by turning inward
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Why “200 First Dates” Is a Red Flag01:51 What Emotional Availability Actually Means02:45 Fear of Vulnerability and Rejection04:19 Emotional Expression Is a Learnable Skill06:06 Why Surface-Level Connection Isn’t Enough08:04 How to Break the Pattern for Good
 
If you’re done settling for surface-level connections—or being the one who always “catches feelings” first—this is the episode for you.
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#73: 3 Reasons You Ignore Red Flags

You saw the red flags. You felt the gut punch. And still, you stayed.
If you’ve ever looked back on a relationship and thought, “How did I miss that?”, this episode is for you.
Hilary breaks down why smart, high-achieving women override their instincts—not because they’re clueless, but because they want love so badly they talk themselves out of what they already know. The chemistry was strong. The checklist looked good. And he did have potential. So you minimized, rationalized, and convinced yourself it wasn’t that bad… until it was.
 
Episode Highlights:
What happens when logic wins out over emotion (and why that’s not always a good thing)
The quiet ways high-functioning women betray themselves in love
How “I see the good in people” becomes a self-sabotaging mantra
Why your discomfort is more trustworthy than you think
The link between intuition and emotional fluency
How to stop brushing off the ick and start paying attention to it
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Recognizing Relationship Red Flags
02:29 Reason 1: Desire for the Ideal Relationship
04:15 Reason 2: Disconnection from Emotions
06:05 Reason 3: Seeing Only the Good in People
08:09 Understanding and Trusting Yourself
09:23 Finding the Sweet Spot in Relationships
 
Whether you're single and hopeful or already in a relationship, this conversation will challenge how you listen to your instincts, manage discomfort, and define what “being a good person” actually means.
Ready to stop turning the wrong man into the right one?Start by learning how to trust yourself again.
Watch Hilary’s free masterclass for high-achieving women who are done ignoring red flags and ready to choose differently. 
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#72: What Single Women Get Wrong About Feminine Energy

If you’ve been told to "just be more feminine" to attract a high-quality man—this episode is your permission slip to roll your eyes and delete that advice forever.
In this episode, Hilary unpacks the real meaning of feminine energy for strong, high-functioning women who are tired of being told to play small. She’s calling BS on the idea that you need to be more “demure,” wear more pink, or act helpless so a man can feel useful. (Spoiler: You don’t.)
 
Episode Highlights:
Why the “let him take the lead” narrative is secretly sabotaging your love life
What feminine energy actually looks like when you’re powerful, grounded, and self-sourced
The childhood beliefs that locked you into over-functioning and under-receiving
One 30-second shift to move from drive into flow (no crystals required)
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Feminine Energy Myths
01:37 Misconception #1:You need to Let Men Help You
02:15 Misconception #2:You Need to be Demure
03:31 The Deeper Truth About Feminine Energy
05:20 Becoming Magnetic in Love
06:36 Queens Don’t Chase
 
Ready to stop playing damsel and start sitting on your damn throne? 
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#71: Why Strong Smart Women Accept Crumbs

They run companies, manage households, juggle a million responsibilities—and still find themselves accepting the bare minimum in love. Why?
In this Summer of Love kickoff, Hilary calls out the quiet epidemic of high-achieving women settling for less in their relationships. From doing all the emotional labor to accepting the bare minimum in return, Hilary spells out what “crumbs” really look like, and why so many women accept them without even realizing it.
The truth? Starving women eat crumbs. If you’ve spent a lifetime feeling emotionally underfed, even the smallest scrap of affection can feel like a meal. But that won’t get you the love you want, and it’s not your fault. The fix? Stop looking outward, and start filling yourself up from within.
If you’re ready to quit the chase and start receiving real love, this episode is your wake-up call.
 
Episode Highlights:
The subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs you're accepting crumbs
Why blaming men misses the point entirely
How emotional deprivation starts early—and shows up in dating
The difference between chasing love and attracting it
What it actually takes to become the woman who won’t settle
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Why Strong Women Settle for Crumbs in Love
[00:56] Signs You're Settling for Less in Relationships
[02:10] How It Feels When You Accept Less Than You Deserve
[03:01] The Real Problem Isn't Him—It's You
[04:07] How Early Experiences Shape Your Standards
[05:32] The Solution: Heal, Fill, and Stop Settling
[07:10] Learn How to Get What You Want
 
Stop chasing scraps and start receiving the whole damn cake. Hilary shows you how to go from starving to self-fed—and why you are the only one who can do it.
🔗 Ready to quit settling and attract real love? Grab Hilary’s free masterclass: https://hilarysilver.com/masterclass

#70: This Book Changed How I Think & Live

Think you're doing all the work but still stuck? This episode might explain why.
Hilary breaks down the book that changed everything for her — and no, it wasn’t a psychology textbook, a trauma certification, or another high-ticket coaching program. It was an 85-page book from 1910: The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles.
It’s not about money. It’s about mastering your mind, and understanding how your thoughts are either creating what you want... or reinforcing what you don’t.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why therapy, mindset work, and affirmations didn’t create lasting change
What “thinking truth regardless of appearances” really means (and why it’s so hard)
How to stop being a passive observer of your life and start becoming the architect
The real reason action without belief keeps you stuck
Why making the most of yourself is not selfish — it’s your responsibility
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] The Science of Getting Rich: What You’ve Been Missing
[01:14] Hilary’s Journey With the Book That Changed Everything
[03:54] How Your Thoughts Become Your Life
[05:52] Why Belief Must Come Before Proof
[07:27] Embodying the Version of You Who Has It
[08:41] Why Personal Growth Is Non-Negotiable
[11:10] Your Mind Is Your Greatest Asset
[12:14] Learn More + Work With Hilary
 
This is the episode to press play on if you’ve been “doing the work” but not seeing the results.
🔗 Resources: – Apply for Ready for Love: https://readyforloveinc.com/program/
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 – You’ll also enjoy Listening To: How I Changed My Brain in 90 Days 
 – Read the book: The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles

#69: Prosperity Codes: What High-Vibe Women Never Do

Ever wonder why some women seem to have a magnetic pull for love, success, and good fortune? It’s not luck, it’s energy. In this episode, Hilary Silver breaks down the prosperity codes high-vibe women live by… and the 7 low-vibe habits you need to drop like yesterday’s leftovers if you want to get everything you say you want.
 
Episode Highlights:
Why complaining without action drags you down
The ego trap of blame and excuses
What victim energy really sounds like—and how to rise from it
How to stop chasing approval and own your worth
The entitlement trap vs. empowered action
What happens when you keep avoiding hard conversations
The quiet control of unsolicited advice (and how to drop it)
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Introduction
[01:17] Importance of High Vibe Behaviors
[01:48] Prosperity Code #1: Don't Complain Without Action
[03:03] Prosperity Code #2: Avoid Blame, Excuses, and Defensiveness
[04:07] Prosperity Code #3: Don't Live in Victim Energy
[06:02] Prosperity Code #4: Don't Seek External Validation
[07:06] Prosperity Code #5: Avoid Entitlement
[09:14] Prosperity Code #6: Don't Avoid Conflict
[11:13] Prosperity Code #7: Don't Offer Unsolicited Advice
[13:40] Embrace High Vibe Behaviors Without Judgment
[14:01] Conclusion
If you recognize yourself in any of these behaviors, good. Awareness is the first step. Now let’s shift into the energy of your next-level self.
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3 High Vibe Habits That Upgraded My Life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TU-_3lZEqcg

#68: Over 40 Glow Up: How to Turn Heads This Summer

You don’t need a new serum, a new diet, or a new man to glow up this summer—you just need you. In this episode, Hilary  is handing out the keys to radiance, and spoiler alert: they’re all about your energy, not your eye cream. Because glowing up has almost nothing to do with how you look and everything to do with how you feel.
From slowing down your pace to indulging in what actually lights you up, Hilary walks you through the internal shifts that make you magnetic. We’re talking presence over appearance. Being rather than doing. Feminine flow instead of frazzled hustle.
 
Episode Highlights:
Trade burnout for slow, sensual mornings
Choose desire over duty (yes, you can buy the sundress just because you want to)
Fill your calendar with you before it fills up with everyone else
Eat and drink like a woman who loves herself
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Rediscover Your Spark
[01:24] How to Have a Summer Glow Up
[01:35] Slow Down and Embrace Feminine Energy
[03:10] Let Yourself Receive and Indulge in Desire
[05:07] Prioritize Yourself and Fill Your Days with Intention
[07:07] Eat and Drink Like You Love Yourself
[08:49] Create a Powerful Morning Mindset Ritual
[11:06] Glow From Within: Presence Over Appearance
Because turning heads isn’t about getting attention—it’s about owning your presence so fully that people feel you walk in the room.
✨ Want to lock in the mindset that makes all this magic possible? Grab Hilary’s Daily Journal—it’s the exact method that’s helped thousands of women (herself included) rewire their brains and live from that grounded, glowing place every day: hilarysilver.com/journal

#67: Regrets Of The Living (Make These Changes Now)

We talk a lot about the regrets people have when they're dying, but what about the regrets we carry every single day?
In this episode, Hilary Silver, former therapist and master coach of 25 years, shares the four most common regrets she hears in her work with high-functioning women. These are micro-regrets that quietly erode your confidence, peace, and sense of self.
From staying silent when you should’ve spoken up, to ignoring your intuition, to being too critical of your appearance, Hilary unpacks the everyday ways we abandon ourselves, and how to stop.
 
Episode Highlights:
What self-abandonment really looks like (and how it shows up)
Why burnout keeps you from showing up as your best self
How to stop dismissing your inner voice
The sneaky regret most women have about their bodies—and how to stop repeating the cycle
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Why We Regret What We Do (and Don’t Do)  
[01:47] Regret #1: Self-Abandonment in Relationships & Life  
[04:36] Regret #2: Not Being Your Best Self  
[06:33] Regret #3: Ignoring Your Intuition  
[07:46] Regret #4: Being Too Hard on Yourself  
[09:33] How to Learn from Regret Without Shame  
 
Regret can either weigh you down or wake you up. This episode is your reminder to choose differently, starting now.
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