Ready For Love with Hilary Silver

#26: Hard Work Won’t Make You Rich

Episode 26: Hard Work Won’t Make You Rich
 
Think working yourself to the bone is the only way to get rich? Hilary flips that tired narrative on its head. Forget grinding yourself into the ground! Hilary built a $12 million business and hit millionaire status by 47, not by hustling harder, but by shifting her mindset. She’s here to tell you that wealth isn’t all about effort but also about energy. And in this episode, she’s sharing the three principles that took her from endless hustle to serious wealth.
 
Episode Highlights:
Hilary recounts how years of backbreaking work got her nowhere—until she shifted from “doing more” to “being more.” She explains how changing who you are can transform your energy and can bring success straight to your doorstep.
You’ve heard “seeing is believing,” but Hilary’s here to tell you it’s the other way around. You’ve got to believe in your success first. Hilary introduces a daily journaling habit that rewires your brain and promises to shake things up in just 90 days.
Whether it’s the universe, God, or some cosmic force, it’s always eavesdropping on your thoughts. If you’re doubting yourself, guess what? The universe knows. Hilary explains how to get your mindset in sync with your goals, so the universe knows you’re ready for that millionaire status.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Hard Work Won’t Make You Rich  
[01:22] Success Principle #1: Being Over Doing  
[02:04] The Struggle: Four Years of Hustling Without Results  
[02:57] The Epiphany: How Shifting Your State Leads to Success  
[04:01] Practical Application: Becoming the Future You  
[05:25] Success Principle #2: The Belief Paradox  
[06:08] Flipping the Script: Why You Have to Believe First  
[07:12] Daily Journal Method: Rewriting Your Mental Script  
[08:15] Success Principle #3: Universal Connection  
[09:19] Mixed Messages: What Are You Really Telling the Universe?  
[11:05] Self-Reflection: Time to Assess Your Beliefs  
[11:46] Break Free from the Grind and Align with Success  
 
Listener Takeaways:
Shift your energy. Spoiler alert—burnout won’t get you there. Learn how focusing on your emotional state can work wonders in aligning you with your biggest goals.
Believe before you achieve. Get on board with Hilary’s journaling method and start believing in your potential today. You’ll see results faster than you think!
Talk to the universe because your thoughts send out powerful vibes. Time to clean up those mixed signals and start manifesting success like the millionaire you’re about to become.
 
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#25: Life Advice That Actually Sucks

Episode 25: Life Advice That Actually Sucks
 
Social media’s got advice flying at you from every angle—some of it sounds like a hug, but a lot of it just keeps you stuck. Hilary serves up the truth about why taking radical responsibility is the only way to break free and grow. With her no-nonsense approach, Hilary dives into the harmful narratives that TikTok, Instagram, and influencers everywhere are selling—and why they’re keeping you trapped in toxic cycles instead of helping you level up.
 
Episode Highlights:
Hilary isn’t afraid to call out the ‘poor me’ posts that paint overwhelmed moms as victims. She argues that staying in this mindset is harmful and urges mothers to reclaim their power by owning their choices and emotions.
Tired of hearing that the workplace needs to change while you do nothing? Hilary is too. She lays out why real empowerment means knowing your worth, setting boundaries, and taking control—no waiting around for systemic changes needed.
Sick of every toxic relationship getting blamed on the narcissist? Hilary flips the script, saying personal growth is about looking in the mirror, not pointing fingers. It’s about breaking the cycle by owning your role in these dynamics.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Why Social Media is Full of Bad Advice
[02:00] The Pitfall of ‘Dramatic Mom’ Content
[05:01] Why Victim Mentality is Toxic for Moms
[08:01] Owning Your Power in the Workplace
[09:14] The Myth of ‘It’s Not You, It’s Society’
[09:36] Narcissists and the Need for Self-Reflection
[12:04] Healing Beyond Narcissistic Abuse
[13:20] How Radical Responsibility Changes Everything
 
Key Takeaways:
Don’t get sucked in by social media life hacks. They may feel validating, but that doesn’t mean they’re helping. Learn to spot advice that keeps you stuck.
Radical responsibility is the real game-changer. Taking ownership of your actions, emotions, and life choices is how you’ll grow and thrive.
Stop waiting for the world to change. Whether it’s motherhood, your job, or your relationships, your power lies in what you do, not in what you’re waiting for others to do.
 
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#24: 9 Things WINNERS Don’t Do

Episode 24: 9 Things WINNERS Don’t Do
 
What makes high achievers stand out? Hilary Silver is here to break down 9 things winners don’t do—trust us, it’s not what you think. Ready to up your game in life, love, or business? This episode is your VIP ticket!
 
Episode Highlights:
Winners don’t sit around complaining. They handle it, find solutions, and move on. 
Blame games are for losers. Winners own their stuff and get to work fixing the problem, not shifting the blame.
Making excuses? Not a chance. Winners know excuses get you nowhere—own up, learn, and do better next time.
Life’s not happening to you—it’s happening because of you. Winners take the reins and steer their own ship.
Who cares if people don’t validate you? Winners know they’re already enough, no outside approval required.
Entitlement? Please. Winners create their own opportunities by showing up, grinding hard, and staying focused.
Winners aren’t worried about someone else’s success; they’re too busy creating their own and cheering on others.
People-pleasing? Not today. Winners know who they are, stay true to themselves, and don’t bend to fit someone else’s mold.
Fear is natural, but winners choose faith. They push through uncertainty, trust the process, and keep growing.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] The Unwritten Rules of Winners
[01:08] Complaining? Not Here
[01:47] Blame is a Loser’s Game
[02:20] Excuses Don’t Fly
[03:29] Victim Mentality? No Thanks
[04:27] Validation is Overrated
[05:39] Nobody Owes You Anything
[06:22] Celebrate, Don’t Hate
[07:10] Stay Authentic or Bust
[07:51] Faith Over Fear, Always
 
Listener Takeaways:
Take a hard look at these 9 traits—are you embodying them, or falling into the trap of what winners don’t do?
Discover how tweaking your mindset can kick those bad habits to the curb—like making excuses or waiting for validation.
Get fired up to face fear head-on, trust the process, and step into your next level of success.
 
This episode is your wake-up call—because winners are made by what they don’t do. Tune in, take notes, and get ready to crush it in every part of your life!
 
Get more incredible resources from Hilary! Click here to access all of her free paradigm-flipping tools: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 

#23: This Virtue May Make You RICH

Episode 23: This Virtue May Make You RICH
 
What if impatience wasn’t a flaw but your secret success weapon? Hilary Silver flips the script on the idea that patience is always a virtue. She shows how tapping into her impatience fueled her transition from local therapist to global coaching powerhouse. In this episode, Hilary reveals how urgency, action, and a fearless attitude have been the keys to her unstoppable success.
 
Episode Highlights:
Hilary doesn’t just embrace impatience—she owns it. Learn how her desire for fast results has helped her cut through the noise, skip the unnecessary waiting, and get straight to the good stuff in both life and business.
Forget endless prep. Hilary’s strategy is all about diving in and figuring things out along the way. Think paying to skip traffic, but for your entire career. She shares how this bold approach keeps her momentum strong and minimizes time spent feeling stuck.
Urgency is about moving past fear. Hilary talks about how her impatience has led to invaluable lessons, from real-world experience to building rock-solid self-trust.
It’s not all smooth sailing. Hilary warns against jumping too fast, explaining the fine line between acting on impatience and letting things unfold naturally.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Embracing Impatience: The Unexpected Game-Changer
[01:00] Why Goals Love a Little Urgency
[02:05] Fast Action, Big Results: Hilary’s Go-To Mindset
[04:01] Fear Who? How Impatience Conquers Doubt
[05:05] Progress Over Perfection: Learn as You Go
[07:13] How Impatience Builds Self-Trust
[09:30] The Dark Side: When Impatience Backfires 
 
Listener Takeaways:
Time to throw out what you’ve been told. Hilary shows how to reframe impatience as the fuel you need to make bold moves and avoid overthinking.
Why waiting around isn’t your best strategy and how embracing urgency can propel you to your goals quicker than playing it safe.
Learn how taking action builds confidence, grows your skills, and helps you trust your own decisions in real time.
 
If you’re tired of feeling stuck or spinning your wheels, this episode is for you. Hilary Silver proves that impatience can be your biggest asset—and she’s sharing exactly how to use it to crush your goals!
 
Want more incredible resources from Hilary? Click here to access all of her free paradigm-flipping tools: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 

#22: The Sneaky Ways We Self Sabotage

Episode 22: The Sneaky Ways We Self Sabotage
 
Ambivalence might seem harmless, but it’s that sneaky little voice that keeps you stuck, second-guessing, and ultimately self-sabotaging your goals. In this episode, Hilary pulls no punches, diving into how those “meh” feelings are secretly holding you back from what you really want. She shares personal stories, client confessions, and straight-up truths about why we keep driving with one foot on the gas and the other on the brake.
 
Episode Highlights:
Ever feel like you want something, but not quite enough to actually go after it? Hilary breaks down the sneaky ways this inner conflict pops up—from dragging your feet on that dream job to half-heartedly pursuing a relationship—and how it leads to low-key self-sabotage.
Hilary keeps it real with a story from her high school days. She auditioned for the dance team, knowing deep down she didn’t actually care about making it. Sound familiar? This story drives home how we sometimes aim for things we don’t even want—just to say we tried.
Hilary calls out the real culprits: society’s pressures, fear of both failing and succeeding, and dodging responsibility. When we only give a half-effort, we get to blame everything but ourselves for not hitting our goals. 
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Self-Sabotage: How it Sneaks Up
[03:10] Real Talk: Client Example
[03:41] #1 External Expectations
[04:24] #2 Fear of Everything
[06:31] #3 Dodging Responsibility
[07:24] The Costs of Playing Small
[08:17] Living Intentionally
[08:49] Dealing with Fears Head-On
 
Listener Takeaways:
Time to ask yourself: are you living for you, or for what others expect? Get real, and get clear on what you actually want.
Whether you’re terrified of crashing and burning or secretly scared of being too successful, face those fears head-on. You can’t move forward if you’re stuck in the shadows.
Ambivalence keeps you in a constant stall-out. Hilary’s advice? Commit fully and own your choices, so you can finally move forward.
 
This episode is your wake-up call to ditch the inner tug-of-war and start showing up with intention and clarity. Ready to stop holding yourself back? Tune in and get the tools you need to start living with purpose.
 
Want more incredible resources from Hilary? Click here to access all of her free paradigm-flipping tools: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/

#21: 9 Habits to Look 10 Years Younger

EP21 - 9 Habits to Look 10 Years Younger 
 
It’s more than genetics—looking and feeling youthful is largely about the choices you make every day. As Hilary celebrates her 52nd birthday, she’s spilling her best-kept secrets to staying energized and radiant.
 
Episode Highlights:
Mindset Magic: Hilary’s dishing out four game-changing mindset habits that help her stay youthful—like focusing on solutions (not problems) and living a self-centered life that puts her needs first. 
Daily Rituals for Radiance: From her 85-15 lifestyle rule to early morning journaling and workouts, Hilary’s got her daily habits on lock. Oh, and she’s not eating after 7 PM—because staying organized and fit requires discipline (and no midnight snacks).
What She *Doesn’t* Do: No alcohol, no fast food, no sugar, no dairy, no sun damage. Hilary’s list of “no’s” might sound tough, but these choices are the reason she’s looking absolutely fabulous at 52. 
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] What’s Age Got to Do With It?  
[02:18] Youthful Mindset Habits: Positivity First, Always  
[08:06] Action-Packed Mornings: Wake Up & Work It  
[14:14] Don’t Just Dream It—Do It: Achieving Those Goals  
 
Listener Takeaways:
Want to look younger? Start by changing your attitude—positivity and prioritizing YOU are the ultimate glow-up secrets.
Hilary’s morning routine is her not-so-secret sauce—journaling, visualizations, and workouts. (And maybe a little self-love in there, too.)
Avoid the aging traps: sugar, alcohol, and too much sun. If you’re ready to live it up at any age, it’s time to cut these out.
 
Ready to stop blaming genetics and start embracing habits that actually work? Hit play to learn Hilary’s real-life, no-nonsense tips for staying vibrant at every age. Want a little more? Grab her 5-minute pre-meal ritual at https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ and keep leveling up! 

#20: You’re Not Broken, Stop Fixing Yourself

EP20 - You’re Not Broken, Stop Fixing Yourself
 
The key to true personal growth isn’t fixing your flaws, but embracing them as part of your wholeness. Hilary dives into this idea, challenging the widespread obsession with constant self-improvement. Do we really need to fix every perceived flaw, or is there a better path? In this episode, she advocates for a radical shift—moving away from the relentless pursuit of perfection and embracing unconditional self-love and acceptance.
 
Episode Highlights:
Hilary explores the exhausting cycle of self-improvement, where individuals continuously question “What is wrong with me?” and seek ways to fix themselves.
Hear the powerful story of a client who found freedom by letting go of the need for self-fixing, allowing herself to enjoy life without the burden of constant self-criticism.
Delve into the concept of shame and how it can prevent true self-expression and authentic connections with others.
Hilary emphasizes embracing both the light and dark parts of oneself as essential to forming a complete and authentic identity.
Discover how viewing imperfections as opportunities for growth, rather than flaws to be fixed, leads to a more fulfilling journey towards wholeness.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] The Concept of Constantly Working on Oneself and Seeking Self-Improvement
[02:06] Client Story
[03:09] Desire for Acceptance
[06:28] The Light and Dark Parts of Ourselves
[07:10] Truths to Accept
[14:40] Integration and Self-Love 
 
Listener Takeaways:
Learn why self-acceptance and unconditional love are the foundations for true personal growth and fulfillment.
Understand the importance of stepping away from the never-ending quest for self-improvement to embrace who you are, as you are.
Find out how embracing all aspects of yourself, including perceived imperfections, can lead to deeper, more genuine connections with others.
Shift your mindset from fixing flaws to integrating and accepting every part of yourself, paving the way for personal fulfillment and achieving your true purpose.
 
Helpful links:
Loneliness - The Other “L” Word Nobody Wants To Talk About:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-hilary-silver-podcast/id1739660144?i=1000657906255
If you’ve ever felt trapped in the endless cycle of trying to “fix” yourself, Hilary’s insights will be a breath of fresh air. Tune in to start your journey toward true wholeness and fulfillment. 
 

#19: How Trying To See The Good In Others Can Hurt You

EP19 - Seeing Good is Bad
 
Is seeing only the good in others truly noble and a characteristic to aspire to? Hilary debunks the myth that focusing solely on the positive aspects of people is virtuous. In fact, she suggests that this one-sided, limited viewpoint is not only not good for you, but it’s actually a harmful set-up for everyone involved.
 
Episode Highlights:
Hilary explains how idealizing others by only seeing their good traits is a distorted view of reality.
Explore how this behavior manifests in various relationships, from parents ignoring their child’s struggles to overlooking red flags in romantic relationships.
Delve into the risks of ignoring the full picture, including emotional, mental, and even physical harm. True loving and appreciation comes from seeing and accepting a person’s whole self, flaws and all.
 
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Challenging Conventional Wisdom About Seeing the Good in People
[01:03] The Problem with Seeing the Good and Examples
[03:09] Self-Interest in Seeing the Good
[05:15] Consequences of Ignoring Reality
[06:08] True Acceptance
[08:13] Personal Story 
 
Listener Takeaways:
Learn the importance of seeing and accepting people for who they truly are, rather than an idealized version.
Understand how setting realistic expectations in relationships can prevent significant letdowns and heartache.
Discover how embracing the entirety of a person, including their imperfections, leads to more authentic and meaningful relationships.
 
Hilary offers new insights into how we connect with others. If you’re looking to build deeper, more authentic relationships, this episode is a must-listen. Learn why embracing the full reality—not just the good—might be the key to avoiding denial and enjoying more honest and fulfilling relationships in your life.
 
Want more incredible resources from Hilary?  Click here to access all of her free paradigm-flipping tools: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/

#18: This Radical Gratitude Practice Will Help You Overcome Anything

EP18 - This Radical Gratitude Practice Will Change The Results In Your Life
 
Why isn’t gratitude bringing the happiness we expect? In this episode, Hilary shares a deeper, more radical approach to gratitude that will revolutionize how you view your past, especially the tough parts.  Incorporating Hilary’s method into your daily practice leads to a stronger relationship with your whole self, and creates resilience, confidence and a self-centered quality that creates beautiful results in your life.
 
Episode Highlights:
A fresh perspective on gratitude that goes beyond appreciating the obvious positives.
The importance of being grateful for negative experiences, including traumas, pain, and disappointments.
Powerful examples that illustrate this radical approach to gratitude
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00:00 - 00:01:16 Importance of Gratitude00:01:17 - 00:02:19 Traditional vs. Revolutionary Gratitude00:02:20 - 00:05:24 Embracing Negative Experiences00:05:25 - 00:07:34 Personal Stories and Examples
 
Listener Takeaways:
Learn why it’s essential to be grateful for every experience, good or bad, and how this mindset can lead to extraordinary personal growth.
Discover how embracing gratitude for challenges makes you resilient and capable of seeing the lessons in every situation.
Understand how to view past traumas as integral parts of your personal development and turn them into sources of strength.
Gain actionable steps on how to actively express gratitude for difficulties, transforming them into opportunities for growth.
 
What’s the easiest way to start this new practice? Hilary’s journaling method! It’s the ultimate toolkit to help you know yourself, love yourself, and accept yourself. Never worry about what to write, never worry about the next best step.  Hilary guides you with visualizations, prompts and audio lessons. In 90 days, you’ll see the results of your new gratitude approach! Check out the digital journal here: https://hilarysilver.com/journal/
 
Want more incredible resources from Hilary?  Click here to access all of her free paradigm-flipping tools: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/

#17: Stop Tolerating & Level Up Your Life

In this episode, Hilary explores a pivotal realization she experienced shortly after she turned 50: the unnecessary burdens we all carry by tolerating less than we deserve. This episode is a candid exploration of personal thresholds, examining everything from daily inconveniences to significant life choices, and how moving past “what we put up with” can transform our lives as we commit to putting SELF first.
Episode Highlights:
Hilary's personal journey of eliminating “just putting up with sh*t” as she approached her fifties.
Practical advice on identifying and addressing small to significant instances of tolerating in one's life.
Insightful discussions on how tolerating less can significantly enhance personal and professional wellbeing.
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00:02] - Introduction to the theme of tolerating and its impact on life.
[00:31:31] - Hilary shares her personal experience of un-tolerating to improve her life.
[01:00:00] - Discussion on everyday tolerances and how they accumulate to impact mood and self-esteem.
[01:31:00] - Strategies for confronting and overcoming significant tolerances in relationships and careers.
Listener Takeaways:
Awareness and Action: Learn to recognize the small discomforts and larger issues you've been tolerating and how to actively address them.
Empowerment through Change: Understand the profound impact that reducing this type of behavior can have on your mental health and personal growth.
Practical Steps to Transformation: Gain insights into actionable steps to reduce tolerating in various aspects of your life, from personal belongings to professional ambitions.
Inspiration for Personal Development: Hilary's story serves as a motivation to embrace change and stop settling for less than you deserve.
Catch this transformative episode to understand why tolerating less can mean living more fully, and how you can start making those changes today. If you're tired of just "putting up" with things, this episode will offer you the tools and courage to demand more from life and yourself.
 
Resources
Click Here to download the Toleration Tracker: https://hilarysilver.com/tolerate/
Here's the link to the episode I mention on How I Changed My Brain in 90 Days: https://youtu.be/bwT6gBswlNY?si=q3J98mjMuA-iLPB-