The Hilary Silver Podcast

Why Therapy Keeps You Stuck (From This Former Therapist)

Episode 3: Why Therapy Keeps You Stuck (From This Former Therapist)
 
Introduction
Welcome back to the Hilary Silver Podcast. Today’s episode is particularly close to my heart. As a former certified psychotherapist, I’ve seen the ins and outs of the therapy world, and I’ve come to some controversial conclusions. Today’s conversation is about why I believe the traditional therapy model is failing us, and is holding us back from truly addressing and resolving our deeper issues. Whether you’re a therapy veteran, a skeptical newcomer, or a fellow professional in the field, this episode promises to challenge some of your fundamental beliefs about what healing looks like. Stay tuned as we unpack the reasons behind quitting conventional therapy and explore more dynamic ways to foster personal growth and self-reliance.
 
Episode Highlights:
Hilary’s Critique of Traditional Therapy: Hear Hilary’s compelling reasons for her growing disillusionment with traditional therapy practices.
The Repetitive Cycle: Insights into the repetitive nature of problems presented in therapy and why this pushed Hilary to seek a change.
Introducing a New Method: Hilary introduces her new method aimed at quicker, more effective results by focusing on empowerment and education rather than prolonged dependency.
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00:00 - 00:02:00] Opening remarks and Hilary’s bold statement on her current stance on therapy.
[00:02:01 - 00:10:00] Discussion on the inefficiencies of traditional therapy, focusing on therapist training and client dependency.
[00:10:01 - 00:20:00] Hilary shares her personal journey from practicing therapist to a coach and why she felt compelled to leave the traditional path.
[00:20:01 - 00:30:00] Explanation of the Hilary Silver Method, including the structure, goals, and the expected outcomes for clients.
[00:30:01 - 00:40:00] Addressing common concerns about switching from traditional therapy to new methods.
[00:40:01 - 00:45:00] Closing thoughts and a call to action for listeners to reassess their therapy choices.
 
Listener Takeaways:
Rethink Therapy: Consider whether traditional therapy is meeting your needs or if alternative methods might lead to quicker, more lasting change.
Self-Empowerment: Embrace approaches that prioritize self-empowerment and education over dependency.
Ask Questions: When engaging with any therapy or coaching, clarify goals, methods, and expected outcomes.
Be Proactive: Take an active role in your healing and personal growth journey, challenging the status quo if it’s not working for you.
Seek Results: Focus on approaches that promise not just to help you feel better temporarily but to be better in the long term.
 
Resources
Courses and online trainings that are designed to help you make progress in ALL areas of your life – don’t just feel better, be better.
 
 
Disclaimer: The Hilary Silver PodcastThe views, thoughts, and opinions expressed are the speaker’s own and do not represent the views, thoughts, and opinions of anyone else. The material and information presented here is for general information purposes only. 
Reference to any specific product or entity does not constitute an endorsement or recommendation by the host. The views expressed by guests are their own and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them or any entity they represent.The content here should not be taken as medical or psychiatric advice. The content here is for informational purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical or psychiatric questions.Contact information: media@hilarysilver.com

High Achieving Women Have Low Self Worth

Episode 2: High Achieving Women Have Low Self Worth
 
Introduction
Welcome back to The Hilary Silver Podcast! Today, we’re peeling back the layers on why so many talented, successful women face challenges in love. Inspired by the new JLo documentary on Amazon Prime, we’ll explore how even the most accomplished among us can struggle with issues of self-worth and intimacy in their personal lives. Join me for this deep dive into the paradox of success in career versus challenges in love.
Episode Highlights:
The JLo Effect: Understanding how JLo's personal and public life provides a unique lens through which we can understand the love challenges of successful women.
Self-Worth vs. Success: A deep dive into why external achievements often mask internal struggles with self-esteem and self-worth.
Cultural Expectations and Personal Relationships: How societal pressures shape the romantic lives of women who are perceived as "having it all."
Practical Takeaways: Tips on navigating self-worth, setting realistic expectations for love, and why understanding personal value is key to healthier relationships.
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00:00–00:05:00] Hilary introduces the topic and shares her initial thoughts on the JLo documentary and its relevance to the struggles of high-achieving women in love.
[00:05:01–00:15:00] Discussion on the dichotomy between public success and private emotional challenges, featuring insights into JLo's personal anecdotes from the documentary.
[00:15:01–00:25:00] Analysis of societal pressures on successful women and the impact on their romantic choices.
[00:25:01–00:35:00] Strategies for women to reconcile their public achievements with their private needs and desires in love.
[00:35:01–00:45:00] Q&A session with listeners sharing their stories and seeking advice on similar issues.
 
Listener Takeaways:
Self-Reflection: Encourages listeners to consider how their public successes might be influencing their private emotional states.
Empowerment through Understanding: Offers insights into how societal narratives can dictate personal happiness and what can be done to change that script.
Community Support: Engages the community for a broader conversation about love, success, and the interplay between the two.
Resources
The Greatest Love Story Never Told
Amazon OriginalThis Is Me… Now (A Love Story)Amazon OriginalReady For Love A revolutionary 12 week transformational program for high achieving women who aren’t willing to settle for single and want to find their true, equal partner.
 
 
Disclaimer: The Hilary Silver PodcastThe views, thoughts, and opinions expressed are the speaker’s own and do not represent the views, thoughts, and opinions of anyone else. The material and information presented here is for general information purposes only. 
Reference to any specific product or entity does not constitute an endorsement or recommendation by the host. The views expressed by guests are their own and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them or any entity they represent.The content here should not be taken as medical or psychiatric advice. The content here is for informational purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical or psychiatric questions.Contact information: media@hilarysilver.com

The Personality Type That Attracts Narcissists

Episode 1: The Personality Type That Attracts Narcissists
Introduction
Welcome to the very first episode of The Hilary Silver Podcast! You're probably already aware that narcissism is everywhere—from Instagram to top-chart podcasts and headline news. But while it's important to recognize narcissistic behaviors for our safety and well-being, there's a part of the conversation that's often overlooked: how our obsession is preventing us from focusing on our own growth and protection.
 
In today's episode, we'll delve into why this shift in focus is crucial and how you can start to make those changes. Discover why focusing too much on spotting narcissists is just plain counterproductive and what you can do instead.
Episode Highlights:
Narcissism in the Spotlight: Explore why narcissism has captured our collective attention and what this means for our personal development.
Self-Protection vs. Narcissist Identification: Learn how the current focus on identifying narcissists could be making us miss crucial self-protective strategies.
Empowerment Through Self-Awareness: Discover strategies to narcissist-proof your life not by focusing outward, but by strengthening your own self-awareness and boundaries.
Insights and Anecdotes: Hilary shares personal anecdotes and insights from her years of clinical practice, illustrating how a deeper understanding of oneself can lead to true empowerment.
In this episode you’ll learn…
The Cultural Obsession with Narcissism: Why are we so focused on this particular personality trait?
The Impact of Hyper-Vigilance: How does constantly being on the lookout for narcissists affect our mental health and relationships?
Shifting the Focus: Practical tips on how to shift the focus from others to oneself to ensure personal growth and safety.
Bonus Content: Don't forget to grab the free download "How to Narcissist Proof Your Life”. This guide will help you apply the insights from today’s discussion to your everyday life.
 
Resources
How to Narcissist Proof Your Life
 
 
Disclaimer: The Hilary Silver PodcastThe views, thoughts, and opinions expressed are the speaker’s own and do not represent the views, thoughts, and opinions of anyone else. The material and information presented here is for general information purposes only. 
Reference to any specific product or entity does not constitute an endorsement or recommendation by the host. The views expressed by guests are their own and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them or any entity they represent.The content here should not be taken as medical or psychiatric advice. The content here is for informational purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical or psychiatric questions.Contact information: media@hilarysilver.com

The Hilary Silver Podcast Trailer

Welcome to The Hilary Silver Podcast. Hilary started this podcast to invite listeners into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you more successful in love and life by turning your focus towards the only person who really matters in your life: YOU. (Yeah, she said it). This isn’t a self-care podcast – it’s a self-centered one.
Why? Because, despite what your mom told you, you really are the center of the universe. Sound cringey? Scary? Selfish?
Good. It’s discomfort that is going to empower listeners to take radical responsibility for the only person they can change (hint: it’s the person staring back at them in the mirror).
The conversations on The Hilary Silver Podcast are designed to challenge long held beliefs about life, relationships and ourselves. Forget what you think you know about narcissism, relationships, therapy, anxiety, “successful” women & dating, wellness & aging, and a whole host of other topics that have all been talked to death… but never like this.
Hilary is the psychotherapist turned paradigm-shifting, script-flipping disrupter listeners didn’t know they needed in their lives… until now. She’s part woo, part neuroscience, and 100% no bullshit. And she's here to help you become self-centered so you can become self-assured, self-made, self-loved, self-aware, self-reliant, self-sufficient, self-motivated, and some more!
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